[MOL] To Chris - my Dad update. [01026] Medicine On Line

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[MOL] To Chris - my Dad update.

Chris, so very sorry to hear about your Dad, and all that you are going
through. At the same time, having been on the "patient" side, I can
understand where he is coming from. I know this hard on you, but please
don't take it personally, dear heart. He is just doing what we always tell
our cancering friends --you gotta be a little selfish during this time, to
put your energy in fighting the fight. to be honest, I discouraged all but
my hubby from being with me at the hospital, and even at the house at times.
Appreciated loved one's caring, but just didn't have the strength for it.
But I know it is very hard. will be keeping you all in bigtime prayers.

He goes in at 
> noon for the surgery and he is ADAMANT about not wanting anyone there.
> Virginia says "he wants to hold onto the idea that this is nothing major;
> having anyone else (except her) there will make him feel nervous about it."
> In other words, he doesn't want a "death watch."  I asked Va. if she feels
> SHE needs my support and she said no; I know she does, but she would rather
> not have it at all than go home with an angry fuming husband.  Also, he told
> my sister, he just wants to go home afterward and rest, not feel like he has
> to "entertain" anyone.  I'll have to respect his wishes, Lillian; I work
> about 20 mins from the hosp, so they'll be able to reach me if they need to.
> The hard part is going to be actually trying to pretend to "function" at my
> job tomorrow, knowing what he's going through.  Maybe I'll take the day off
> Wednesday, pick up something for lunch, and pay a short visit that way.
> -chris

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