Thanks for the reply Peggy, my husband is optimistic and promises me someday he will be
whole again and able to have sex. What bothers me is he is so consumed with his cancer
that he rarely gives me a hug or a kiss or love you or nothing. Just constant fight for
a cure is all he dwells on. I try to remind him to think of other things and lately he
has been able to do some things he enjoys which is tooling leather. He made me a saddle
for my horse and something for me to have for the rest of my life. It is beautiful and
even though there are some places where I can see his hand was shaking I just am
overwhelmed by his love to do this for me because I know it physically hurt to work on
it and build it all from his wheelchair. I think he figured out how to express his love
through making the saddle. With tears in my eyes, I share this with you all.....Beav
Peggy L. Hall wrote:
> Beav,
>
> Your comments were apropos. Unbelievable how sex worries my husband and I never
> give it a thought. Just having him alive and in the same room with me is more than
> enough "sex" for this gal for now. Docs got him on testosterone patch and I keep
> thinking if that damn thing ever kicks in maybe he'll give me something to keep up.
>
> Peggy
>
> beav76@uswest.net wrote:
>
> > Lillian;
> > I know that is alot of my husbands depression. He has told a few times he
> > doesn't feel like a whole man anymore. I know he has mentioned a few times when
> > I was running late out at the horse that he thinks I'm having an affair. Then
> > that hurts my feelings because it is the farthest thing from my mind and I would
> > think he would know how much I love him no matter what. I do have to reassure
> > him now and then. It seems it is a part of life that has to go on hold for
> > awhile. Sex has never been my main interest in life anyway. I have known some
> > women that couldn't sustain and would leave their husband. I can certainly feel
> > how it must be for the one who is sick.....Thanks for sharing this
> > Lillian.....Love u....Beav
> >
> > Lillian wrote:
> >
> > > I truly believe that the sexual aspect of cancer has to be devastating to
> > > all and certainly can lend to serious depression. I have no answers for
> > > this. I keep searching the cyber hwy. for something with a lot of meat to
> > > it in regards to this. I have a feeling everyone is afraid to talk about
> > > one of the most natural God given gifts there is. I don't believe Doctors
> > > for the most part forewarn patients; which increases the patients feelings
> > > of aloneness;etc. This is a very serious subject. One day, I will find the
> > > right site. luv, u, lillian
> > >
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