Tonia,
Thank you for all your encouragement and support!! I haven't told you all
the strange things that have been happening to me this past week and 1/2!
So needless to say that when you said that your Dad's name is Al too, it
brought tears to my eyes and does even now!!!
I am not sure what the situation is with them not checking into Moffit, I am
almost sure that in the beginning it was probably denial. For the past
month I have beat myself up for not being more forceful and getting the
information for them and ... and... and... POINTLESS. There is nothing
that I can do about the past. HOWEVER, the future is another story. I am
going to do the research and get all the information that I can and I will
take this up with him directly. My mom, I just don't understand. I can't
say any more about that, because I just don't get it!!!!!! It is like
talking to a wall with her. I have tried really hard the last few weeks to
prod her gently, because I didn't want to make her feel as guilty as I had
been feeling. My sister and I both have kept on her and she has come out
and become more involved and more aggressive(but not enough)! I said he has
no donors because his 2 brothers have refused, he has 3 sons, one of which
has aids, one that has a condition due to diabetes and one is a drug addict.
My sister and I have not been tested, we are not biological children. His
blood type is o- though and so is my sister's, do you think that it would be
worth a shot to have her checked? Mine is b+, I don't guess I am an option.
This Dr. made it sound like if his brother's were unwilling that there is NO
alternative. I was going to take this up with the next ??? we do. It is
looking good right now, they said he may be able to come home tomorrow. I
know it will do him wonders to get him out of that hospital. I have school
Mon, Tues, and Wed. nights so I will be getting as much info as possible
hopefully by the end of this week. I don't want to jump down his throat the
minute he gets home!!
If there is anything else that you can tell me, I am eternally greatful!!
Thanks for the info and especially for the Friendship!!!!!
Pauli
----- Original Message -----
From: <TON1213@aol.com>
To: <mol-cancer@lists.meds.com>
Sent: Monday, October 09, 2000 12:10 PM
Subject: Re: [MOL] Update and Prayer request/reply
> Pauli:
>
> I think Lillian said it right. Be very careful and enter through the back
> door. Is your Mom and dad open to reading information on Moffit Hospital?
> The site I sent you indicates it is one of the top 25 in the country. Why
> not take advantage of it? I contacted the hospital prior to my dads
approval
> and found out what is necessary for the consultation. Maybe if you did
this
> and were able to explain what is necessary for the visit, some of the
unknown
> will be answered. Another weird thing I did was pull up the doctors
picture
> and his credentials from the hospitals web site for my dad and family. It
> really helped us to feel comfortable knowing some background prior to the
> meeting.
>
> Regarding transplants. First off, has your dads siblings been teasted?
How
> about yourself and any brothers or sisters you may have? My brother is a
> perfect 6/6 match!!! Less than a 5% chance of that. Based on your dads
age I
> am assuming a stem-cell transplant is his only option. Ask me any
question
> regarding this and I shall reply. I have researched this so much that I
> could fill pages for you. JUST ASK. Why is there no donor? Dis you
check
> the National donor registry?
>
> Regarding using his own stem cells. Unfortunately , not an option for AML
> patients. The reason is their cancer IS in the stem cell, therefore it
> would be almost impossible for the doctors to harvest enough normal cells
to
> give the patient back.
> Fist goal is to get your dad strong and in remission. Learning to live
day
> by day with cancer is so difficult but a necessity.
>
> Take care my friend and keep being aggressive.
>
> One last note. My dad's name is Al too...... Do you think we were meant
to
> connect via cyber????
>
> Your friend-
>
> Tonia
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