Hi Brenda.
Just a quick note this time (I promise).
I had my operation in Aug. '98, chemo and rad txs from Oct'98 - Jan'99.
Chronic pain ever since.
I have no children of my own (other than Sox, that is) but lay claim to the
kids of several of my friends. I've had a couple of them come to visit me
for a couple of days since I moved home. They live about 5 hrs away so it
was a real treat. I correspond with them regularly though, either thru
e-mail or snail mail.
Here at home, I have a 5yr old niece and a 2yr old nephew who are so cute
it's criminal. And my 22 yr old nephew has taken to dropping in on me after
school/work a couple of times a week. We're really close which pleases my
sister to no end as he's something of a loner.
I would have liked children of my own however it appears to be one of those
things that wasn't meant to be. I got to play step-mother once and I just
loved it. But even though their father and I are no longer together (still
friends though) my relationship with his kids is still strong. Both he and
the children's mother support this which makes it much easier.
By the way, for me this IS a short note. LOL
Your friend,
Bridget
>From: Brenda Anderson <banderson0511@yahoo.com>
>Reply-To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
>To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
>Subject: Re: [MOL] Operative report on my husband
>Date: Wed, 13 Sep 2000 08:50:35 -0700 (PDT)
>
>Dear Bridget,
>Thank you so much for your encouragement. Charles did
>ask to begin the treatments in November and we have
>our first appointment on the 7th. The onc seemed fine
>with this. Yes, Charles does view the
>surgery/treatments as curative. At this point,
>there's no question in his mind about it. My sister
>asked me if I was going to tell Charles about what was
>in the operative report and I told her "of course not.
> What would be the point?" and she definitely agreed
>with me. She said they seem to be going out of their
>way to keep this from us. I wouldn't have known if I
>hadn't requested the records. But the longer he has a
>positive attitude, the better off he is.
>You are right, we are VERY close! He has a wonderful
>sense of humor and we share lots of laughs. And I am
>very positive around him.
>Charles did go have an abdominal CT scan yesterday but
>since we don't go back to the onc till Nov. 7th, we
>probably won't find out anything till then.
>We do go back to his surgeon for a checkup on 9/27.
>When did you have your surgery, chemo, etc.? Do you
>have any children? Hope you're having a good day!!
>Thanks for being my friend and listening...Brenda
>
>--- Bridget Rambeau <bsbridget@hotmail.com> wrote:
> > Good morning dear Brenda,
> > I know how difficult this must be for you,
> > especially having to keep it to
> > yourself. It must be hard not to let your worry
> > show. But you know Charles
> > better than anyone so you have to follow your own
> > instincts. As you say, the
> > report's available anytime he wants to see it.
> > If I recall, didn't Charles opt to delay txs until
> > Nov.? How did his onc
> > feel about this delay? Does he see these txs as
> > curative?
> > You must keep up your faith and hope. As difficult
> > as that will be at times,
> > it's what will sustain you thru the challenges
> > ahead. Be joyful for every
> > minute you have to share and remember that Charles
> > is like the rest of us:
> > he still has the rest of his life ahead of him and
> > he's so lucky to have you
> > at his side to share it. While I don't know Charles,
> > I sense from your
> > writings that you also are a very lucky woman to
> > have him beside you. Be
> > glad and don't forget to make sure you share a laugh
> > every day. It's the
> > most important part of his therapy so be mindful.
> > As for me, I'm doing ok. I'm on a fistful of pain
> > meds every day and, for
> > the most part, they keep things pretty much under
> > control (except when they
> > don't, of course). I go to the Pain Mgmt Clinic in
> > Nov. so I'm doing lots of
> > research before I go. You know, be armed with
> > knowledge!
> > I'll be praying for both of you.
> > From someone who's grateful to be your friend,
> > Bridget
> >
> >
> > >From: Brenda Anderson <banderson0511@yahoo.com>
> > >Reply-To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
> > >To: MOLers <mol-cancer@lists.meds.com>
> > >Subject: [MOL] Operative report on my husband
> > >Date: Tue, 12 Sep 2000 10:20:45 -0700 (PDT)
> > >
> > >Bridget--I have studied the operative report at
> > length
> > >and have discussed it with my sister (the RN) and
> > she
> > >confirmed what I already was afraid of...it clearly
> > >states that they were not able to remove all the
> > >cancer...Charles doesn't know this (and wouldn't
> > want
> > >to), so I won't tell him. He knows I have the
> > report,
> > >he was there when she gave it to me, and I read it
> > on
> > >the way home from our appointment, but he has not
> > >asked to see it, what it says, or anything. He has
> > >such a positive attitude right now, it's probably
> > best
> > >if he doesn't know. It will take me awhile to
> > adjust
> > >to this (in my head).
> > >How are you today? Do you have any problems with
> > >pain? Are you taking any type of tx or meds now?
> > >Your friend,
> > >Brenda
> > >
> > >
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