It is with both relief and sadness that I read your message, Dusti. Relief
that you were okay as we were getting quite worried. And sadness that what
many of us feared was keeping you away, was actually the case. It was with a
heavy heart that I read of your mom's succumbing to the battle she has
fought with so much strength and dignity. Such a legacy she has left for you
and your sister! I read the letter from her work and can understand your
pride. She truly was a beautiful person. And you might not realize it but
your mom has been a role model for me since I first signed onto the forum. I
remember I came in search of someone with my rare type of cancer with which
to communicate. You, Dusti, in representation of your beloved mother, were
and are still the only person who I've found. As you so kindly shared her
journey with me I came to admire and respect her tremendously. I have drawn
strength from her courage and if I am ever in the same position, it is she I
will try to emulate. I have no doubt her spirit will be alive to comfort you
for many, many years.
With love and sadness,
>From: "Barham, Dusti # IHTUL" <Dusti.Barham@tulsa.cistech.com>
>To: "'firstname.lastname@example.org'" <email@example.com>
>Subject: [MOL] Hello From Dusti
>Date: Wed, 9 Aug 2000 16:08:26 -0500
>Good afternoon Molers. It has been a long time since I have checked in.
>Somehow I was accidentally cut off from the list and since Mom was getting
>so sick, I knew I wouldn't be in to work to check my emails so I left
>cut off for the time being. I'm going to re-sign back on this afternoon
>check out the archived messages.
>My beautiful, courageous Mother left this world July 31st, (last Monday) at
>10:00 a.m. with my sister holding one hand and I holding the other. In
>passing, she was as graceful as she was in living. I cannot fully describe
>the last couple of weeks with her but suffice to say that I was there to
>love, comfort, & care for her in every capacity. She was able to stay at
>my sister's house and did not have to go to the hospital.
>Folks, I just cannot describe the experience other than to say that I am so
>honored to have been there and to have been able to help her. I am
>attaching the memo her work sent out to their branches in Los Angeles,
>Bakersfield, Houston, Tulsa, Dallas & Ecuador. It really made me proud to
>see that I was not the only who thought she was an angel. I am a little
>numb at the moment but am handling this better than I would have predicted.
>She had a beautiful service that I know she would have been pleased with
>there were just a ton of flowers.
>I am so proud of her. She never complained and she never felt sorry for
>herself. She just tried to make the best out of a horrible situation. She
>has taught me so much. Many of you have encouraged and inspired me since I
>came on board in October. You will probably never know the impact you made
>on my journey but I am thankful for all of you. I felt less alone, less
>Once I get back on, I am going to hang out for a while and see if maybe I
>can help someone else like I was helped. I've missed you guys.
>Oxy Services, Inc.
>TO: All OOGC and OSI Employees
>FROM: Peter Vincent
>DATE: July 31, 2000
>SUBJECT: SUE HANDLEY
>I regret to inform you that our friend and colleague Sue Handley passed
>this morning in Tulsa where, surrounded by her family, she had been
>struggling with cancer for several months.
>Sue had over twenty-three years of service with the Human Resources group
>Oxy, first in Bakersfield from 1976 to 1987 then Tulsa until 1996 and then
>back in Bakersfield until her illness last year. Her job brought her into
>contact with many employees, especially those on international assignment,
>and the thoughtful extra steps and special handling she gladly performed to
>help those with whom she worked made countless friends for her over the
>years. Sue's serene, gentle and positive approach to life and work was
>refreshing in today's challenging and often aggressive world and she will
>greatly missed. I was fortunate enough to work closely with Sue for
>significant periods over the last twenty years and she became a close
>friend. She was quite simply one of the most kind and genuinely goodhearted
>people I have ever known. Sue is survived by her daughters Denise and
>and her grandchildren Carlie and Chance. They are in our thoughts and
>prayers during this difficult time.
>There is a luncheon (11:30AM) and funeral service (1:00PM) on Thursday
>August 3rd at:
>First Christian Church
>400 South Barker
>El Reno, OK 73036
>Flowers may be sent to the funeral home, or donations may be made to the
>American Cancer Society.
> Wilson Funeral Home
> 100 North Barker
> El Reno, OK 73036
>If you would like to express your condolences to the family, the address
> Denise Emberson and Dusti Barham
> Tulsa, OK 74133
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