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Re: [MOL] children



Rohit,

Lovely story!!  What a good father you are.   I thought I was an ace mother,
but then  I look at what great mothers my children are and I feel so small
in comparison.  But, my heart expands with overwhelming joy at how good they
are.  You should be proud of yourself for handling this tough situation so
beautifully.

Peggy

----- Original Message -----
From: Rohit Ramaswamy <rohitr@worldnet.att.net>
To: <mol-cancer@lists.meds.com>
Sent: Sunday, June 18, 2000 12:13 AM
Subject: [MOL] children


> Hi all,
>
> Just wanted to share some moments with our six-year old yesterday ... he
> has been subdued all week, ever since Patty had to be rushed off to the
> ER on Monday with a high temperature. I'd been trying to get him to
> share his worries for several days, until finally yesterday we hit upon
> a game that got him to open up. I asked him to shake his head and feel
> if he could hear something between his ears - if he heard a rattle, it
> was a worry trying to get out, and he should speak about it. He shook
> his head and said that he had a worry that was bigger than our house,
> and it felt not like a rattle, but like snakes crawling around. So now
> at least we have some words to frame around his worries - a small worry
> is a rattle, and a large one a rattlesnake. We also established
> yesterday a worry box, where he keeps some special paper and crayons to
> be touched by no one else - if the worry is so big he cannot speak about
> it, the agreement is that he will draw about how he feels.
>
> I feel that keeping him open is one of the most important challenges I
> have - much as I would like, I cannot wish away his worries or make
> unrealistic promises - all I can do is to give him hope everyday and be
> in tune with what he is feeling, and make sure he gets lots and lots of
> love from both of us at this time. That keeps the connection between us
> open - whatever happens,  it is through that connection that we will be
> able to endure and transcend these times. Its an odd thing - these
> circumstances have opened up my heart in ways I never imagined before.
> Maybe there's grace in adversity after all.
>
> Just thought I'd share.
>
> Rohit
>
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