[MOL] David [01094] Medicine On Line

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[MOL] David

Hi, David, so good to see you posting and to hear your perspective. I
think the big issue in the States as well as the UK is the patient's
right to make an informed choice about end of life matters, and to have
it respected and followed. For example, I am in my 40's, but prior to my
surgeries, I signed paperwork indicating the circumstances under which I
wanted "DNR." I spend a lot of time with folks in the hospital,
especially near the end of life, and here there is the tendency to go
too far in keeping people "technically alive." In other words, with a
pulse and not much else. 

Once the various pieces of equipment are hooked up -- even if there is
no chance of recovery or response -- it is very hard to shut the
machines off, which can take a terrible toll on the family, emotionally
and financially. The dilemma is that even with that signed document,
Drs. will sometimes ignore it, or family members have to fight very hard
to have it honored. I have known folks who had requested "DNR" (and
stated so in writing) who were resucitated against their wishes while
the family was away from the bedside. This greatly prolonged the final
suffering for both patient and family.

So, we have to keep fighting to have our voices heard! All the best to
you David...love, Joicy

Whipps, David wrote:
> Dear Dusti
> HI, I am David and originally joined the forum when my grandmother was
> diagnosed with "untreatable" bowel cancer with secondaries to the liver.  I
> don't often reply to messages on the forum, but there are a few that touch
> me.  There has been uproar in the UK recently as a cancer patient who was
> described by the medical profession as elderly (she was 56!) found the code
> DNR (Do not resuscitate) on her notes.  This was signed by a junior doctor
> who she had met only once during her treatment.  The medical professions
> defence was that the suffering she would go through if they had to
> resuscitate her would be worse than just letting nature take its course.
> Though, we assume they mean worse for them, not the patient or the patients
> families.
> I hate to say this, but its my fear that medical organisations, do tend to
> decide to let nature take its course, and in defence to them in some cases,
> this may be best for the patient, however, for the families, its very very
> hard to accept.
> I pray that you continue to find the strength to get you through this
> difficult time, I know from reading the messages you post on the forum that
> you are already a very strong person.  I hope that you are getting the
> chance to spend some real quality time with your mum at the moment.  I
> realised when my grandmother accepted what the doctors told her, that the
> time we were spending together, was precious.  A lot was said during the
> final months that made her passing easier to cope with as she made sure, we
> realised how much she loved us.
> I pray for you, and pass many good wishes over the pond.
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