In a message dated 04/30/2000 10:30:03 AM Eastern Daylight Time,
misty60@earthlink.net writes:
> For some reason, although it may not seem fair. The one with the cancer has
> to be the strong> one, and has to be sometimes more supportive to their
loved ones. Being a> caregiver is some times as hard as having the cancer.
Nanc, no disrespect intended here, but I must disagree. As hard it is may be
to be a caregiver, and as much strength as it does require for a patient to
deal with cancer, I don't think there is any comparison between what a
caregiver endures and the patient endures. I am in awe of all my father has
been through, very courageously, I might add. No matter what it takes I know
that my job is significantly easier than his. I don't have the isolation, the
same fear, the pain, the worries that he has. While I can think of nothing
less I would want to lose than my Dad, my greatest fear is FOR him. My pain
of loss is an eventual fact of life as all parents/children expect, but I
think suffering with cancer is not something any of us ever expected, least
of all him. I can cry; he has trouble crying - at least in front of anyone.
I can talk about it; he can't. I can still work, eat, sleep well; quite often
he can't. I can enjoy a nice day; sometimes he is too sick to look out a
window. He has great difficulty maintaining a positive attitude, so do I, but
I have support. The difference is a world apart. -chris
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