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Dear Martin,
It is with much sadness and sorrow that I read your message.In the few
minutes that we spoke on the phone several weeks a go I could tell that
you're a great person and I'm sure your mother was also a wonderful and
dedicated "idishe mom".
My prayer is with her and all your family.In the background I'm following
Barb's condition and I sincerely hope that  she'll be able to overcome her
cancer soon.

I speak from the bottom of my heart.
My sincere condolences.
Shalom.
Ricardo Edelstein Elian

-----Original Message-----
From: Martin Auslander <fitecancer@earthlink.net>
To: mol cancer <mol-cancer@lists.meds.com>
Date: Sunday, November 07, 1999 7:24 AM
Subject: [MOL] My Mother=Fannie Auslander


>Good Morning,
>
>Yesterday I received a phone message to call my Brother in Chicago. I,
>then took the phone, went into the bathroom, closed the door and called
>him. He told me. She was gone. Just like that. I knew for weeks she was
>ill. she had a number of complications notwithstanding a liver
>malignancy for which I frantically tried to send messages to Gary,my
>Brother to advise that she can reverse this condition. My dilemma
>was.....I could not be with her or with my Brother to support or provide
>at least the possibility for one more quality day and the hope that I
>could be with her, to hug her, to kiss her one more time. That I will
>have to live with....My wife does not know and she will not know of this
>as I am trying to help her deal with a recurrence of cancer. The stress
>of her knowing would exacerbate that condition. I know my wife.
>
>This is a time to reflect on the person, the woman..Fannie Auslander. A
>woman who loved life, her husband of some 60 years, her two sons, Gary
>and I and her Grandchildren. She was a person of strong will, superb
>moral values, a dedicated follower of her religion, Judaism, and a
>believer in the strong fibers of family ties. She was loved by all and
>all that I knew that knew her, loved her. She was an extrovert who was
>opinionated and I learned from her. I learned the basic differences
>between right and wrong and the reasoning behind that. It is to her
>legacy and testament that her two sons became professionals in business
>and whom loved both her and her husband, our Father who passed away 5
>years ago. Ironically they were both 86 years old and both passed away
>on "Shabat" (the Sabath). So, we lift our glasses now and we sing to her
>memory, the love and adoration for which she so richly deserved and we
>symbolically sit "Shiva" mourners week in prayer and reflection of one
>who left us with the faith that life is love.
>
>I know many of you, who are my family, my friends, my dear loved ones,
>would love to hug me as I would you at a time like this, but know of my
>dilemma. I can't go to funeral on Tuesday in Chicago and can't for one
>moment let on in front of Barb that our Mother is gone. But, in my heart
>I know you are hugging me and supporting our desires to provide life to
>those that need to know the purpose of living through their trials of a
>wellness journey. Mom would want that. I know that. That is my one deep
>reasoning for not feeling as guilty as I am. The fact that she knows
>that Barb needs to get well. So, thank you for listening to what I have
>to say. Thank you to those who love us and support us and please, please
>say a prayer for my Mother, my Brother and my his family and my wife.
>
>I guess the best thing I could say about my Mother is this......If you
>knew her...you would have loved her.
>
>God Bless You All,
>marty auslander
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