Re: [MOL] My Dad/Martha from Nanc [00547] Medicine On Line

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Re: [MOL] My Dad/Martha from Nanc

Hi Martha,
You write so well and is so interesting, keep up the good work, I'm not much 
of a reader but I do enjoy reading your letters about your family.  A job 
well done.
Love ya,
Mom (Nanc) ():-)

In a message dated 8/12/99 11:46:31 PM Eastern Daylight Time, writes:

 Dear Lori and All,
 Oh, this is one of those kind of stories I think I never mention because he 
still does embarrass me, I guess, and because he is such a zero sum game.  I 
have to laugh, talking about him.  I spent a lot of my youth crying about 
things he said and yelling at I specially have to laugh now that I 
am...grown-up...sort of.
 Dad lives in a condo, which has a majority of seniors.  They have programs 
there.  He has tried to go to some...but just hasn't made friends like he 
wants to.  It has been 8 years since my mom died..he is definitely been 
looking for a companion.
 One time, Tony went up to visit his folks with Jeff and I stayed home and 
went to a picnic the condo was sponsoring with my dad.  He saw a lady he 
thought was pretty.  So he goes and stands next to her...everyone was 
watching people play bocci ball.  My dad had a camera in his hands.  As soon 
as she turned his way, he flashed the camera in her face.  Smooth, huh????  
Later I think he saw her somewhere around the condo.  He said she started 
screaming "you're crazy, you're crazy" and high tailed it in the opposite 
direction.  That really hurt all his little feelings.
 He keeps telling us; forever it seems, that he is going to move back to Long 
Island or one of a couple of other places.  It's like a merry-go-round.  The 
last few times, we were really hoping...but he won't go.  
 We are the only three people, i.e., me, my son and my husband; with whom he 
knows he can be himself and be accepted.
 Lori, I loved your story about your father too.  If only my father had done 
something like your's did for charities.  He thinks a lot more about people 
doing things for himself.  
 His style, you probably already have feel for.  But if you're not sure, I'll 
tell you another story.  He discovered that someone he used to work with, but 
didn't know too well, lives near here.  He took Tony by to meet this man.  
When the man came out, my dad started yelling to him things like..."how come 
you never call me come I always have to call you up first"...etc.
 My father has done a lot for me and my family.  He helped us buy our house.  
He has helped us on several occasions to pay doctor bills.  But, if you can 
imagine, he does it with such bad grace as to almost lose the credit for the 
good he does.
 He was not always the man he is today.  The seeds were there...As I describe 
it to others who know him but don't see him anymore, (people I occasionally 
talk to)..this includes the complete list of friends and relatives of his and 
my father has been standing, for a while on the cusp of serious 
tutti-fruitism.  All we can do is watch, wonder and try to catch him if he 
 I have almost given up giving advice.  I mean, I still do, but I know that 
the chances that he will heed it are slim to none.
 I have something positive, I guess I can tell you.  If you pick up Centrum 
Vitamins, my dad wrote that line about them having all the vitamins you need 
from A to Zinc.  He was a very successful copywriter...but never got into the 
big bucks of TV.  When he was younger, he worked for Bell and Howell out in 
Chicago.  That's were he started his collection of cameras!  He's got some 
nice old ones!  Sometime around there in Chicago, I was born.  Then when he 
got back to NY, he got into medical advertising.
 He got so many awards.  He could have really been a primo successful guy if 
he didn't have such a big mouth.  He never appreciated any of his awards.  
You see, he wanted to be the next Ernest Hemmingway...But that's another 
story and one that I can't think of that many jokes about right now.  
 Love and Hugs to you all,
 Martha  >>
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