Lillian,
movie no I have not but I am trying to work on my disclipine and
write more. disclipine is the key I am learning disabled and Have
attention deficit disorder. I am not taking my medication now so
cleaning house is really fun! I like the motto I think I will put that
in my signature on my email.
Tom and I are getting ready for a party
with the neighbors they are Hmoung and have 6 great kids. Coo male,
Taung Male, Miekeia female, sandie female, Cahchewa female, and Cachee,
female. when we first move in to the neighborhood march 29, nine
days after dad died. The children were hanging out the window watching
what we were brining in to the house. In the days to come they would
occupy thier time seeing how far they could spit ( the window had the
screen removed). So one day I made one of those thought sounds and
puffed out my cheeks and spit the kids giggled, then I asked them if it
was a one or a ten. Sandie gave me a ten. We have been playing
ever since.
Tom parents had a swing set in thier back
yard the one one used so we gave it to yee and Cha for thier kids. Cha
(MOM) and I give it until September. we also gave them a plastic
merry go round so now they take turns making each other dizzy.
The first time we ate with Yee and Cha. we
were escorted down stairs to drink rice wine ( more like 180 proof
vodka) we did not want to offend them so tom drank. We do not drink very
often. They would pass the cup about the size of two communion cups at
the Lutheran church around you would exaggerate compliments about the
person next to you and drink to them. Tom had three, I had a sip. It was a burner. My the time dinner was
ready tom was walking cross legged up the stairs and did not even see
the pig heads and feet peeking at him from,
the white, 5 gallon buckets in the kitchen. After he ate he
did! The food was great by the
way.
Since then my husband has come home at
midnight from work to find his wife in the neighbors garage drinking
beer and watching them cut up a Goat and cook it.
I really needed the
Beer to get over the Goat head boiling in the pot. yet my grand
parent used to do the same thing out on the farm in ND. So we ate
Goat.
Recently my uncle and cousin came to help
tom remove some door from a house that was to be torn down. when they
were leaving Corey my cosin said Dad Is that a Dog on that table back
there? My uncle said no son that is a goat your cosin Lori eats
goat with the neighbors all the time! They are invited to the party on
the 21 also. Do you think they will eat goat???
I will be teaching the Moms Cha's and her friends how
to make box cake and cookies. I gently let them know
I did not want to how to cut up a goat. However I am open to lean
how to make egg rolls and other food.
I have to admit I am getting concerned I
have know Idea how many people are going to come to the party. it
is pot luck. Cha and yee seem to be telling a number of thier friends.
If their friends have under six kids they are newly weds. So my aunt is
in charge of getting prized to the relay races and other games we will
have to thing of to keep all the kid off the swing set at once. I told
Cha that the kids will have to use her bath room because they seem think
my house is a children's museum and want to
experiment with every thing. With all my unpacked boxes they think
it is one big toy box. I have to watch them all the time and I am
working of teaching them boundaries. the older kids translate for the
younger when they to not understand. Thus the kid will go to Cha's where
there is less distraction to business.
Well I need to clean house.
Take care all
Lori
"Life. Be in it. A good motto for
Lori. I second Kathy's response to your story about your Dad,
have you thought of making a movie? I am in stitches, your
writing is so creative, and your inner beauty to overlook his
imperfections and love him as he was shines forth. What a
story! Your friend, lillian
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Thursday, August 12,
1999 11:24 AM
Subject: Re: [MOL]
Lori
Hi Lillian and
all,
I have made a few decisions for my
life. I have been allowing my asthma to stop me from being a
part of life too long my doctors have not been helpful at all. I
joined Ballys fitness club and started working out with a
personal trainer yesterday. My arm hurt from the new effort but
I did not run in to to much trouble during the training the
manager Elgin is taking me on as a personal challenge. His son
has asthma. Thus far he has been very help full. I have been
stuck in a cycle of taking medication for the asthma and then
having side effects. i.e. Depression and weight gain. It has
gotten so bad that I have not been able to work full-time. I
miss being a part of life. I listen to all of your struggles
Think of my Dad zest for life. I realize that I have been afraid
to live for fear of dieting.
So I am going to live. by dad and
family always babied me because of my asthma. yet when I was
younger I did not know I had asthma and I was a runner, a water
skier, a bicycle rider and a hiker. I think my dad would have
loved to have changed his life so he could live better and
longer. He might have stopped eating so much and played more.
Like he did when we were children. He did make one change he
stopped drinking for 18 years before he died. That was his one
source of great pride. Dad was also very involved with his
community as I am my neighborhood.
We are gathering the information
for the attorneys for the malpractice case over dads death. It
is very painful. we never had a chance to look at other options
dad wanted the surgery done and to get bake to life. He witness
one of his good friend wasting away from the chemo and cancer.
There was perhaps no greater fear for my father ( a fat Man)
then to loose that much weight. One of the Doctors was a friend
of my fathers. I hope we won't have to sue him. Quakers don't
sue to settle differences. The problem I have is that I need to
know the doctors here my concerns and acknowledge thier mistakes
so they will not do it again. But in the adversarial system the
Doctors will not sit down with the family and admit they screw
up. The is no reconciliation process short of the court. I do
not want this to happen to anouther family Father or mother.
Cindy the neighbor who was stabbed,
is doing all right. She is back is work. the police are idiots
they are doing every thing to late. i.e. finger prints. picture
identification ect. I pray they come up with something. But I
will be suprized. We will pursue the police not doing thing
right with internal affairs.
I pray for you all
Love Lori
Thanks, I enjoyed that. How's it
going for you kiddo? Let us hear from you, we so
enjoyed our chats...your friend,
lillian
