Lillian,
movie no I have not but I am trying to work on my disclipine and
write more. disclipine is the key I am learning disabled and Have attention
deficit disorder. I am not taking my medication now so cleaning house is
really fun! I like the motto I think I will put that in my signature on my
email.
Tom and I are getting ready for a party with
the neighbors they are Hmoung and have 6 great kids. Coo male, Taung Male,
Miekeia female, sandie female, Cahchewa female, and Cachee, female.
when we first move in to the neighborhood march 29, nine days after dad
died. The children were hanging out the window watching what we were brining
in to the house. In the days to come they would occupy thier time seeing how
far they could spit ( the window had the screen removed). So one day I made
one of those thought sounds and puffed out my cheeks and spit the kids
giggled, then I asked them if it was a one or a ten. Sandie gave me a
ten. We have been playing ever since.
Tom parents had a swing set in thier back yard
the one one used so we gave it to yee and Cha for thier kids. Cha (MOM) and
I give it until September. we also gave them a plastic merry go
round so now they take turns making each other dizzy.
The first time we ate with Yee and Cha. we were
escorted down stairs to drink rice wine ( more like 180 proof vodka) we did
not want to offend them so tom drank. We do not drink very often. They would
pass the cup about the size of two communion cups at the Lutheran church
around you would exaggerate compliments about the person next to you and
drink to them. Tom had three, I had a sip. It was a
burner. My the time dinner was ready tom was walking
cross legged up the stairs and did not even see the pig
heads and feet peeking at him from, the white, 5 gallon buckets in the
kitchen. After he ate he did! The food was
great by the way.
Since then my husband has come home at midnight
from work to find his wife in the neighbors garage drinking beer and
watching them cut up a Goat and cook it.
I really needed the Beer to
get over the Goat head boiling in the pot. yet my grand parent used
to do the same thing out on the farm in ND. So we ate Goat.
Recently my uncle and cousin came to help tom
remove some door from a house that was to be torn down. when they were
leaving Corey my cosin said Dad Is that a Dog on that table back there? My
uncle said no son that is a goat your cosin Lori eats goat with the
neighbors all the time! They are invited to the party on the 21 also. Do you
think they will eat goat???
I will be teaching the Moms Cha's and her friends how to
make box cake and cookies. I gently let them know I did
not want to how to cut up a goat. However I am open to lean how to
make egg rolls and other food.
I have to admit I am getting concerned I have
know Idea how many people are going to come to the party. it is pot
luck. Cha and yee seem to be telling a number of thier friends. If their
friends have under six kids they are newly weds. So my aunt is in charge of
getting prized to the relay races and other games we will have to thing of
to keep all the kid off the swing set at once. I told Cha that the kids will
have to use her bath room because they seem think my
house is a children's museum and want to experiment with every
thing. With all my unpacked boxes they think it is one big toy box. I
have to watch them all the time and I am working of teaching them
boundaries. the older kids translate for the younger when they to not
understand. Thus the kid will go to Cha's where there is less distraction to
business.
Well I need to clean house.
Take care all
Lori
"Life. Be in it. A good motto for
Lori. I second Kathy's response to your story about your Dad, have
you thought of making a movie? I am in stitches, your writing is
so creative, and your inner beauty to overlook his imperfections and
love him as he was shines forth. What a story! Your friend,
lillian
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Thursday, August 12, 1999
11:24 AM
Subject: Re: [MOL] Lori
Hi Lillian and
all,
I have made a few decisions for my
life. I have been allowing my asthma to stop me from being a part of
life too long my doctors have not been helpful at all. I joined
Ballys fitness club and started working out with a personal trainer
yesterday. My arm hurt from the new effort but I did not run in to
to much trouble during the training the manager Elgin is taking me
on as a personal challenge. His son has asthma. Thus far he has been
very help full. I have been stuck in a cycle of taking medication
for the asthma and then having side effects. i.e. Depression and
weight gain. It has gotten so bad that I have not been able to work
full-time. I miss being a part of life. I listen to all of your
struggles Think of my Dad zest for life. I realize that I have been
afraid to live for fear of dieting.
So I am going to live. by dad and
family always babied me because of my asthma. yet when I was younger
I did not know I had asthma and I was a runner, a water skier, a
bicycle rider and a hiker. I think my dad would have loved to have
changed his life so he could live better and longer. He might have
stopped eating so much and played more. Like he did when we were
children. He did make one change he stopped drinking for 18 years
before he died. That was his one source of great pride. Dad was also
very involved with his community as I am my neighborhood.
We are gathering the information for
the attorneys for the malpractice case over dads death. It is very
painful. we never had a chance to look at other options dad wanted
the surgery done and to get bake to life. He witness one of his good
friend wasting away from the chemo and cancer. There was perhaps no
greater fear for my father ( a fat Man) then to loose that much
weight. One of the Doctors was a friend of my fathers. I hope we
won't have to sue him. Quakers don't sue to settle differences. The
problem I have is that I need to know the doctors here my concerns
and acknowledge thier mistakes so they will not do it again. But in
the adversarial system the Doctors will not sit down with the family
and admit they screw up. The is no reconciliation process short of
the court. I do not want this to happen to anouther family Father or
mother.
Cindy the neighbor who was stabbed, is
doing all right. She is back is work. the police are idiots they are
doing every thing to late. i.e. finger prints. picture
identification ect. I pray they come up with something. But I will
be suprized. We will pursue the police not doing thing right with
internal affairs.
I pray for you all
Love Lori
Thanks, I enjoyed that. How's it going
for you kiddo? Let us hear from you, we so enjoyed our
chats...your friend,
lillian
