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Sent: Thursday, August 12, 1999
11:24 AM
Subject: Re: [MOL] Lori
Hi Lillian and
all,
I have made a few decisions for my life. I
have been allowing my asthma to stop me from being a part of life too
long my doctors have not been helpful at all. I joined Ballys fitness
club and started working out with a personal trainer yesterday. My arm
hurt from the new effort but I did not run in to to much trouble during
the training the manager Elgin is taking me on as a personal challenge.
His son has asthma. Thus far he has been very help full. I have been
stuck in a cycle of taking medication for the asthma and then having
side effects. i.e. Depression and weight gain. It has gotten so bad that
I have not been able to work full-time. I miss being a part of life. I
listen to all of your struggles Think of my Dad zest for life. I realize
that I have been afraid to live for fear of dieting.
So I am going to live. by dad and family
always babied me because of my asthma. yet when I was younger I did not
know I had asthma and I was a runner, a water skier, a bicycle rider and
a hiker. I think my dad would have loved to have changed his life so he
could live better and longer. He might have stopped eating so much and
played more. Like he did when we were children. He did make one change
he stopped drinking for 18 years before he died. That was his one source
of great pride. Dad was also very involved with his community as I am my
neighborhood.
We are gathering the information for the
attorneys for the malpractice case over dads death. It is very painful.
we never had a chance to look at other options dad wanted the surgery
done and to get bake to life. He witness one of his good friend wasting
away from the chemo and cancer. There was perhaps no greater fear for my
father ( a fat Man) then to loose that much weight. One of the Doctors
was a friend of my fathers. I hope we won't have to sue him. Quakers
don't sue to settle differences. The problem I have is that I need to
know the doctors here my concerns and acknowledge thier mistakes so they
will not do it again. But in the adversarial system the Doctors will not
sit down with the family and admit they screw up. The is no
reconciliation process short of the court. I do not want this to happen
to anouther family Father or mother.
Cindy the neighbor who was stabbed, is
doing all right. She is back is work. the police are idiots they are
doing every thing to late. i.e. finger prints. picture identification
ect. I pray they come up with something. But I will be suprized. We will
pursue the police not doing thing right with internal affairs.
I pray for you all
Love Lori
Thanks, I enjoyed that. How's it going for
you kiddo? Let us hear from you, we so enjoyed our
chats...your friend,
lillian
