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Sent: Thursday, August 12, 1999 11:24
AM
Subject: Re: [MOL] Lori
Hi Lillian and all,
I have made a few decisions for my life. I have
been allowing my asthma to stop me from being a part of life too long my
doctors have not been helpful at all. I joined Ballys fitness club and started
working out with a personal trainer yesterday. My arm hurt from the new effort
but I did not run in to to much trouble during the training the manager Elgin
is taking me on as a personal challenge. His son has asthma. Thus far he has
been very help full. I have been stuck in a cycle of taking medication for the
asthma and then having side effects. i.e. Depression and weight gain. It has
gotten so bad that I have not been able to work full-time. I miss being a part
of life. I listen to all of your struggles Think of my Dad zest for life. I
realize that I have been afraid to live for fear of dieting.
So I am going to live. by dad and family always
babied me because of my asthma. yet when I was younger I did not know I had
asthma and I was a runner, a water skier, a bicycle rider and a hiker. I think
my dad would have loved to have changed his life so he could live better and
longer. He might have stopped eating so much and played more. Like he did when
we were children. He did make one change he stopped drinking for 18 years
before he died. That was his one source of great pride. Dad was also very
involved with his community as I am my neighborhood.
We are gathering the information for the
attorneys for the malpractice case over dads death. It is very painful. we
never had a chance to look at other options dad wanted the surgery done and to
get bake to life. He witness one of his good friend wasting away from the
chemo and cancer. There was perhaps no greater fear for my father ( a fat Man)
then to loose that much weight. One of the Doctors was a friend of my fathers.
I hope we won't have to sue him. Quakers don't sue to settle differences. The
problem I have is that I need to know the doctors here my concerns and
acknowledge thier mistakes so they will not do it again. But in the
adversarial system the Doctors will not sit down with the family and admit
they screw up. The is no reconciliation process short of the court. I do not
want this to happen to anouther family Father or mother.
Cindy the neighbor who was stabbed, is doing all
right. She is back is work. the police are idiots they are doing every thing
to late. i.e. finger prints. picture identification ect. I pray they come up
with something. But I will be suprized. We will pursue the police not doing
thing right with internal affairs.
I pray for you all
Love Lori
Thanks, I enjoyed that. How's it going for you
kiddo? Let us hear from you, we so enjoyed our chats...your friend,
lillian
