[MOL] Re: A Story to Live By [02247] Medicine On Line


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A Story To Live By
>
>              by Ann Wells (Los Angeles Times)
>
>              My brother-in-law opened the bottom drawer of my
>               sister's bureau and lifted
>               out a tissue-wrapped package.  "This," he said,
>               "is not a slip. This is lingerie." He discarded
>               the tissue and handed me the slip. It was
>               exquisite;
>               silk, handmade and trimmed with a cobweb of lace.
>               The price tag with an astronomical figure on it
>               was still attached. "Jan bought this the first
>               time we went to New York, at  least 8 or 9 years
>               ago. She never wore it. She
>               was saving it for a special occasion. Well, I
>               guess this is the occasion." He took the slip from
>               me and put it on the bed
>               with the other clothes we were taking to the
>               mortician. His hands lingered
>               on the soft material for a moment, then he slammed
>               the drawer shut and turned to me. "Don't ever save
>               anything for a special occasion. Every day you're
>               alive is a special occasion."
>
>               I remembered those words through the funeral and
>               the days that followed when
>               I helped him and my niece attend to all the sad
>               chores that follow an unexpected death. I thought
>               about them on the plane returning to California
>               from the Midwestern town where my sister's family
>               lives. I thought about all
>               the things that she hadn't seen or heard or done.
>               I thought about the things
>               that she had done without realizing that they were
>               special.
>
>               I'm still thinking about his words, and they've
>               changed my life.
>               I'm reading more and dusting less. I'm sitting on
>               the deck and admiring the
>               view without fussing about the weeds in the
>               garden.  I'm spending more time
>               with my family and friends and less time in
>               committee meetings.  Whenever possible, life
>               should be a pattern of experience to savor, not
>               endure. I'm
>               trying to recognize these moments now and cherish
>               them.  I'm not "saving" anything; we use our good
>               china and crystal for every special event-such as
>               losing a pound, getting the sink
>               unstopped, the first camellia blossom. I wear my
>               good blazer to the market
>               if I like it. My theory is if I look prosperous, I
>               can shell out $28.49 for
>               one small bag of groceries without wincing.  I'm
>               not saving my good perfume
>               for special parties; clerks in hardware stores and
>               tellers in banks have noses that function as well
>               as my party-going friends.  "Someday" and "one
>               of these days" are
>               losing their grip on my vocabulary. If it's worth
>               seeing or hearing or doing, I want to see and
>               hear and do it now.
>               I'm not sure what my sister would've done had she
>               known that she wouldn't be
>               here for the tomorrow we all take for granted. I
>               think she would have called
>               family members and a few close friends. She might
>               have called a few former
>               friends to apologize and mend fences for past
>               squabbles. I like to think she would have gone out
>               for a Chinese dinner, her favorite food. I'm
>               guessing - I'll never know.
>               It's those little things left undone that would
>               make me angry if I knew that
>               my hours were limited. Angry because I put off
>               seeing good friends whom I was going to get in
>               touch with - someday. Angry because I hadn't
>               written certain letters that I intended to write -
>               one of these days. Angry and sorry that I didn't
>               tell my husband and daughter often enough how much
>               I truly love them.
>               I'm trying very hard not to put off, hold back, or
>               save anything that would
>               add laughter and luster to our lives. And every
>               morning when I open my eyes,
>               I tell myself that it is special.
>               Every day, every minute, every breath truly is...
>               a gift from God.
>
>
>
>               If you've received this it is because someone
>               cares for you. If you're too
>               busy to take the few minutes that it would take
>               right now to forward this to
>                ten people, would it be the first time you didn't
>               do that little thing that
>               would make a difference in your relationships?  I
>               can tell you it certainly
>                won't be the last. Take a few minutes to send this
>               to a few people you care
>               about, just to let them know that you're thinking
>               of them.
>               May love litter your life with blessings!
>               JUST SEND IT!!
>               "You've got to dance like nobody's watching, and
>               love like it's never going
>               to hurt."
>
>
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