Dear Kathy:
I think my dad does understand. At least I know he knows how much I love
him. I think that's the best gift I can give him.
So you're a "waterbag" too?? You should see me when I go to the card store
to chose a card. First of all, it has to say EXACTLY what I feel in my
heart, and so needless to say, it sometimes takes me forever to find just
the right one. And when I do find it, I usually have to stand there for
about ten minutes, waiting for the tears to dry and hope that no one sees
me blubbering in the aisle. Too emotional for my own good!!
I will look for Dr. Siegel's book this week end and send one to Dad. He's
not really a "reader," but I will give it a shot.
Yes, we sure are lucky to have Joicy, and I personally feel blessed to have
her for a pastor and a friend. She's been there for our family in the past.
My sister lost her husband in a car accident, and Joicy was the one who
brought us back to God and helped us get through that tragedy. I will
always be thankful to God for her. And yes, her sermons are wonderful!!
She's made me realize I HAVE to buy waterproof mascara.
Thanks for letting me know that you are always there.
Love,
Linda
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From: kcorrigan@chgw.com[SMTP:kcorrigan@chgw.com]
Reply To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
Sent: Wednesday, April 14, 1999 3:29 PM
To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
Subject: RE: [MOL] I'D LIKE TO INTRODUCE MYSELF - Linda
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Dear Linda: It's perfectly natural to lose it when someone you love is in
distress. Like I said, my dad used to cry all the time -- at first. I
know
your father understands, and I'll bet he appreciates it. I, too, am a
"waterbag." I cry in pet food commercials! So don't apologize for being
emotional. Actually, I recommend all of Dr. Siegel's books. I think he
wrote three of them. I had all three, but I sent them to one of our MOLers
who signed off, and he hasn't sent them back. That's okay, though. I hope
they helped him. I'll bet Joicy's sermons are wonderful. Her posts
certainly are. We're lucky to have her. We'll help you in any way we can,
Linda -- I think you already know that. Your friend, Kathy
-----Original Message-----
From: owner-mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
[mailto:owner-mol-cancer@lists.meds.com]On Behalf Of George, Linda
Sent: Wednesday, April 14, 1999 1:13 PM
To: 'mol-cancer@lists.meds.com'
Subject: RE: [MOL] I'D LIKE TO INTRODUCE MYSELF - Linda
Dear Kathy:
I've done my share of crying and I know it's not over yet. Don't get me
wrong, I'm never negative around Dad. I'm always positive, and I keep
telling him that he WILL get through this with all of us at his side, and
with God's help. I just get so emotional when I talk to him, especially
when I tell him how much I love him and that I pray for him constantly -
that's when I lose it. But most of the time I am very positive. I'm a VERY
emotional person and wear my heart on my sleeve. I NEVER get through one of
Joicy's sermons without crying. I keep a box of tissue in my pew. I cry
when I'm sad; I cry when I'm happy.
I'd like to get Dad some good reading material, so maybe I'll pick up one
of Dr. Bernie Siegel's books. Any suggestions for a particular one?
Kathy, thanks so much for your thoughts. I appreciate them and I hope you
continue to do well. Also, thanks for your e-mail address.
God bless you,
Linda
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From: kcorrigan@chgw.com[SMTP:kcorrigan@chgw.com]
Reply To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
Sent: Wednesday, April 14, 1999 10:46 AM
To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
Subject: RE: [MOL] I'D LIKE TO INTRODUCE MYSELF - Linda
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Dear Linda: My name is Kathy. I'm a cancer survivor, too -- like June. I
was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer in December of 1997. My youngest
daughter apparently went home and cried her eyes out (according to her
boyfriend); my oldest daughter doesn't live close to me, so I don't know
what her initial reaction was, but she was always strong and upbeat when
she
was around me. My father cried every time I tried to talk to him at first
-- but my mother was sweet and strong. Eventually, we all began to accept
the situation, and this made it much easier. The doctor gave me sleeping
medications, too -- Ambien -- which made a world of difference. I had such
lovely dreams, I looked forward to going to bed. My doctor gave me Paxil,
and I still take it. She also gave me Ativan when I was on chemo. It
helped enormously with the anxiety. Reading Dr. Bernie Siegel's books
helped me, too, as well as some comforting inspirational literature. I
applaud you for wanting to know exactly what to do for your father. I
don't
think there's really any right answer, though. All families are different.
I'm so sorry for what you're going through. If I can ever be of help,
please don't hesitate to write to me at kcorrigan@chgw.com. Good luck.
Kathy in Boise
-----Original Message-----
From: owner-mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
[mailto:owner-mol-cancer@lists.meds.com]On Behalf Of Argila, June
Sent: Wednesday, April 14, 1999 8:37 AM
To: 'mol-cancer@lists.meds.com'
Subject: RE: [MOL] I'D LIKE TO INTRODUCE MYSELF - Linda
Linda: I read your post and feel for you. I am a cancer survivor so
far...diagnosed 9/97. I have 3 daughters and they all have cried in front
of me briefly, I think Sloan Kettering told them to appear strong. What I
wanted to say is - if they cried all the time, I as a mother wouldn't be
able to discuss certain future plans with them, burial, etc. More
importantly if my kids were falling apart I would have to be to careful
with
them. The calmness they seemed to have took about a month after my
diagnosis, so cry now. Please know that this is just my opinion and
everyone's family is different. After about a month my doctor put me on
something to sleep at night so I wasn't quite so melancoly in the day time.
A good nights rest really helps. Later on I took Zoloft for about 5 weeks
and then St. John's Wort for about a month, just until I came to grips with
Acceptance. If you have any questions my email address is
Argila@telephonics.com. Take care of yourself so that you are in good
shape
for your father.
Your friend June A.
> -----Original Message-----
> From: George, Linda [SMTP:lindag@nac.net]
> Sent: Wednesday, April 14, 1999 8:49 AM
> To: 'mol-cancer@lists.meds.com'
> Subject: RE: [MOL] I'D LIKE TO INTRODUCE MYSELF
>
> Dear Frank:
>
> It's so good to know that you're out there. My prayers are with you too,
> and my heart goes out to your three daughters. I'm sure you're as special
> to them as my dad is to me.
>
> Maybe you can give me some pointers on what a dad needs to hear from his
> daughters (there are 4 of us), and maybe what he doesn't want to hear
when
>
> he is battling cancer. He lives in Florida, and I just came back from a
> 2-week visit. I was there with him at the doctor's office when he got his
> diagnosis. I felt like the earth fell from beneath my feet, but I held
> myself together pretty well. When we got home, he just broke down and
> sobbed like a baby, and I didn't know what to do or what to say. I tried
> to
> hug him, but he wanted to be alone and left the room. A lot of people
tell
>
> me never to cry in front of him. I'm not sure I agree with that. It's
such
>
> an emotional time for everyone involved - how can you not cry together?
>
> I'm home now in NJ, and we talk every day. He's being admitted today to
> begin his chemo. He has an acute leukemia. I appreciate your prayers and
> know that I'm praying for you and yours.
>
> Frank, I'd appreciate any suggestions you have. I want to do the best I
> can
> for my dad and be there when it really counts. I pray to God to lead me
in
>
> the right direction and to give me the wisdom to know what Dad needs.
>
> It feels great to be a part of this forum. The first thing I did this
> morning was to get on-line to write to you guys!! I feel a great comfort
> from knowing you are all there.
>
> Hope to hear from you soon.
>
> Love,
> Linda
>
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> From: Frank Cromie[SMTP:fmc@ndak.net]
> Reply To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
> Sent: Monday, April 12, 1999 9:34 PM
> To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
> Subject: Re: [MOL] I'D LIKE TO INTRODUCE MYSELF
>
>
> Dear Linda,my name is Frank and I belong to the MOL Group.I just want you
> to
> know that we have some of the nicest people on the net.And we will do
> whatever we can to help you thru this most difficult time in your life.I
> have three daughters,and all of them are scared to death about my
> condition,so I know a little bit how you may feel.I am a retired minister
> and I do my best to help out whenever needed.So you can be assured that
> there has been,and there is now prayers going to heaven on your dads and
> your behalf.God bless you and welcome.Love Frank C
>
>
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>
>
>
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: Todd Hagerman <sewfun@bright.net>
> To: <mol-cancer@lists.meds.com>
> Sent: Monday, April 12, 1999 6:47 PM
> Subject: Re: [MOL] I'D LIKE TO INTRODUCE MYSELF
>
>
> > linda,
> > don't worry about rambling, everyone here understands and knows what
> you
> > are going thru. just hang in there and let this bunch of beautiful
> people
> > lift you up. and be there for you.
> > love,
> > tami
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: George, Linda <lindag@nac.net>
> > To: 'mol-cancer@lists.meds.com' <mol-cancer@lists.meds.com>
> > Date: Monday, April 12, 1999 2:42 PM
> > Subject: [MOL] I'D LIKE TO INTRODUCE MYSELF
> >
> >
> > >Hello everyone,
> > >
> > >My name is Linda George and I'm a new member of your cancer forum.
> Joicy
> > >Becker-Richards, my pastor and a cancer survivor, has told me about
> your
> > >group, and what a caring group you are. I also "know" Lillian from
> another
> > >e-mail group called "Faithtalk" that Joicy has set up. I've heard a
lot
> > >about Lillian, and I can see what a big part she plays your forum. Hi,
> > >Lillian.
> > >
> > >Anyway, the reason I'm here is because my dad has been diagnosed with
> acute
> > >myelogenous leukemia several weeks ago. He is going to be admitted to
> the
> > >Moffitt Cancer Center in Tampa, Florida this coming Wednesday. I am a
> very
> > >concerned and worried daughter who loves her dad more than anything.
> And
> I
> > >am so scared.
> > >
> > >I've done some research on this type of leukemia and I've learned a
> lot.
> > >I've also picked up some info on your forum re. chemotherapy and its
> > >effects and some herbal treatments, etc. that can help the immune sys
> tem,
> > >etc. I will vigorously read whatever is suggested to help my dad and
> our
> > >family through this journey.
> > >
> > >The doctor said he had a 50-70% chance of remission at his age. He's
> 75.
> > >I'm just so worried about him getting through aggressive chemo - they
> said
> > >some patients don't make it through. I'm to the point where he's all I
> > >think about 24 hours a day. It's hard for me to concentrate on my job.
> > >
> > >I know I'm rambling, but I need to share with people who can relate.
> Any
> > >input would be appreciated. And, of course, your prayers. That's
> something
> > >I do almost every waking moment.
> > >
> > >I look forward to hearing from you.
> > >
> > >Linda
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
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