Frank:
Your daughters sound terrific. They must love you very, very much.
I do plan on being with Dad as much as I possibly can. Actually, I want to
get a room in the hospital (the center has accommodations) and stay there
for the week when I go to visit him. I just plan to stay with him all day,
hold his hand, and just be there. I tell him all the time how much I love
him.
I promise to be myself, speak my heart, and most of all, just be there for
him. I don't have any children, but two of my sisters do, for a total of
five grandchildren. I think cards are a great idea. Before Dad left for the
hospital he framed a bunch of family pictures and has them in his room. We
also plan to cozy up his bed with an afghan from home.
Frank, please keep in touch with me. I will continue to keep you
up-to-date. Your prayers are greatly appreciated, and just know you and
your family are in mine.
Love,
Linda
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From: Frank Cromie[SMTP:fmc@ndak.net]
Reply To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
Sent: Wednesday, April 14, 1999 12:21 PM
To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
Subject: Re: [MOL] I'D LIKE TO INTRODUCE MYSELF
It,s really nice to have you with us Linda.A few weeks ago I was in the
hospitol for a little Surgery.and it was so comforting to me to know that
my
girls cared for me.I recieved a phone call from my daughter in Texas,my
other daughter was there with me.Just knowing of their presence and concern
was enough for me.
Coming from a long ways to visit him spoke volumes of how you feel.Its hard
for a lot of people to realize,but just being there,hardly saying a
word,holding his hand is such a wonderful expression of love.At the bedside
go with the moment.If he is sleepy,let him rest,But most of all tell him
how
you feel.It will work wonders for you and him
Speaking for a lot of cancer patients we just want to be treated like
everybody else.Its so difficult for me to have people chosing their
words,terrified that they may say the wrong word.Others make their visits
short because they are so nervous.Just be yourself.Speak your hearty,and
let
him know how huch you appericate him,and how much he means to you.If you
have kids,let them (if small)make cards for him.BUT JUST BE THERE FOR HIM.
Linda,I.ll keep in touch,let us know how things are going.You and your dad
are in our prayers and thoughts.Love Frank
----- Original Message -----
From: George, Linda <lindag@nac.net>
To: <mol-cancer@lists.meds.com>
Sent: Wednesday, April 14, 1999 7:49 AM
Subject: RE: [MOL] I'D LIKE TO INTRODUCE MYSELF
> Dear Frank:
>
> It's so good to know that you're out there. My prayers are with you too,
> and my heart goes out to your three daughters. I'm sure you're as special
> to them as my dad is to me.
>
> Maybe you can give me some pointers on what a dad needs to hear from his
> daughters (there are 4 of us), and maybe what he doesn't want to hear
when
> he is battling cancer. He lives in Florida, and I just came back from a
> 2-week visit. I was there with him at the doctor's office when he got his
> diagnosis. I felt like the earth fell from beneath my feet, but I held
> myself together pretty well. When we got home, he just broke down and
> sobbed like a baby, and I didn't know what to do or what to say. I tried
to
> hug him, but he wanted to be alone and left the room. A lot of people
tell
> me never to cry in front of him. I'm not sure I agree with that. It's
such
> an emotional time for everyone involved - how can you not cry together?
>
> I'm home now in NJ, and we talk every day. He's being admitted today to
> begin his chemo. He has an acute leukemia. I appreciate your prayers and
> know that I'm praying for you and yours.
>
> Frank, I'd appreciate any suggestions you have. I want to do the best I
can
> for my dad and be there when it really counts. I pray to God to lead me
in
> the right direction and to give me the wisdom to know what Dad needs.
>
> It feels great to be a part of this forum. The first thing I did this
> morning was to get on-line to write to you guys!! I feel a great comfort
> from knowing you are all there.
>
> Hope to hear from you soon.
>
> Love,
> Linda
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> From: Frank Cromie[SMTP:fmc@ndak.net]
> Reply To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
> Sent: Monday, April 12, 1999 9:34 PM
> To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
> Subject: Re: [MOL] I'D LIKE TO INTRODUCE MYSELF
>
>
> Dear Linda,my name is Frank and I belong to the MOL Group.I just want you
> to
> know that we have some of the nicest people on the net.And we will do
> whatever we can to help you thru this most difficult time in your life.I
> have three daughters,and all of them are scared to death about my
> condition,so I know a little bit how you may feel.I am a retired minister
> and I do my best to help out whenever needed.So you can be assured that
> there has been,and there is now prayers going to heaven on your dads and
> your behalf.God bless you and welcome.Love Frank C
>
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> ----- Original Message -----
> From: Todd Hagerman <sewfun@bright.net>
> To: <mol-cancer@lists.meds.com>
> Sent: Monday, April 12, 1999 6:47 PM
> Subject: Re: [MOL] I'D LIKE TO INTRODUCE MYSELF
>
>
> > linda,
> > don't worry about rambling, everyone here understands and knows what
> you
> > are going thru. just hang in there and let this bunch of beautiful
people
> > lift you up. and be there for you.
> > love,
> > tami
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: George, Linda <lindag@nac.net>
> > To: 'mol-cancer@lists.meds.com' <mol-cancer@lists.meds.com>
> > Date: Monday, April 12, 1999 2:42 PM
> > Subject: [MOL] I'D LIKE TO INTRODUCE MYSELF
> >
> >
> > >Hello everyone,
> > >
> > >My name is Linda George and I'm a new member of your cancer forum.
Joicy
> > >Becker-Richards, my pastor and a cancer survivor, has told me about
your
> > >group, and what a caring group you are. I also "know" Lillian from
> another
> > >e-mail group called "Faithtalk" that Joicy has set up. I've heard a
lot
> > >about Lillian, and I can see what a big part she plays your forum. Hi,
> > >Lillian.
> > >
> > >Anyway, the reason I'm here is because my dad has been diagnosed with
> acute
> > >myelogenous leukemia several weeks ago. He is going to be admitted to
> the
> > >Moffitt Cancer Center in Tampa, Florida this coming Wednesday. I am a
> very
> > >concerned and worried daughter who loves her dad more than anything.
And
> I
> > >am so scared.
> > >
> > >I've done some research on this type of leukemia and I've learned a
lot.
> > >I've also picked up some info on your forum re. chemotherapy and its
> > >effects and some herbal treatments, etc. that can help the immune sys
> tem,
> > >etc. I will vigorously read whatever is suggested to help my dad and
our
> > >family through this journey.
> > >
> > >The doctor said he had a 50-70% chance of remission at his age. He's
75.
> > >I'm just so worried about him getting through aggressive chemo - they
> said
> > >some patients don't make it through. I'm to the point where he's all I
> > >think about 24 hours a day. It's hard for me to concentrate on my job.
> > >
> > >I know I'm rambling, but I need to share with people who can relate.
Any
> > >input would be appreciated. And, of course, your prayers. That's
> something
> > >I do almost every waking moment.
> > >
> > >I look forward to hearing from you.
> > >
> > >Linda
> > >
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