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Dear Linda: It's perfectly natural to lose it when someone you love is in distress. Like I said, my dad used to cry all the time -- at first. I know your father understands, and I'll bet he appreciates it. I, too, am a "waterbag." I cry in pet food commercials! So don't apologize for being emotional. Actually, I recommend all of Dr. Siegel's books. I think he wrote three of them. I had all three, but I sent them to one of our MOLers who signed off, and he hasn't sent them back. That's okay, though. I hope they helped him. I'll bet Joicy's sermons are wonderful. Her posts certainly are. We're lucky to have her. We'll help you in any way we can, Linda -- I think you already know that. Your friend, Kathy
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From: owner-mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
[mailto:owner-mol-cancer@lists.meds.com]On Behalf Of George, Linda
Sent: Wednesday, April 14, 1999 1:13 PM
To: 'mol-cancer@lists.meds.com'
Subject: RE: [MOL] I'D LIKE TO INTRODUCE MYSELF - Linda
Dear Kathy:
I've done my share of crying and I know it's not over yet. Don't get me
wrong, I'm never negative around Dad. I'm always positive, and I keep
telling him that he WILL get through this with all of us at his side, and
with God's help. I just get so emotional when I talk to him, especially
when I tell him how much I love him and that I pray for him constantly -
that's when I lose it. But most of the time I am very positive. I'm a VERY
emotional person and wear my heart on my sleeve. I NEVER get through one of
Joicy's sermons without crying. I keep a box of tissue in my pew. I cry
when I'm sad; I cry when I'm happy.
I'd like to get Dad some good reading material, so maybe I'll pick up one
of Dr. Bernie Siegel's books. Any suggestions for a particular one?
Kathy, thanks so much for your thoughts. I appreciate them and I hope you
continue to do well. Also, thanks for your e-mail address.
God bless you,
Linda
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From: kcorrigan@chgw.com[SMTP:kcorrigan@chgw.com]
Reply To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
Sent: Wednesday, April 14, 1999 10:46 AM
To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
Subject: RE: [MOL] I'D LIKE TO INTRODUCE MYSELF - Linda
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Dear Linda: My name is Kathy. I'm a cancer survivor, too -- like June. I
was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer in December of 1997. My youngest
daughter apparently went home and cried her eyes out (according to her
boyfriend); my oldest daughter doesn't live close to me, so I don't know
what her initial reaction was, but she was always strong and upbeat when
she
was around me. My father cried every time I tried to talk to him at first
-- but my mother was sweet and strong. Eventually, we all began to accept
the situation, and this made it much easier. The doctor gave me sleeping
medications, too -- Ambien -- which made a world of difference. I had such
lovely dreams, I looked forward to going to bed. My doctor gave me Paxil,
and I still take it. She also gave me Ativan when I was on chemo. It
helped enormously with the anxiety. Reading Dr. Bernie Siegel's books
helped me, too, as well as some comforting inspirational literature. I
applaud you for wanting to know exactly what to do for your father. I
don't
think there's really any right answer, though. All families are different.
I'm so sorry for what you're going through. If I can ever be of help,
please don't hesitate to write to me at kcorrigan@chgw.com. Good luck.
Kathy in Boise
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From: owner-mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
[mailto:owner-mol-cancer@lists.meds.com]On Behalf Of Argila, June
Sent: Wednesday, April 14, 1999 8:37 AM
To: 'mol-cancer@lists.meds.com'
Subject: RE: [MOL] I'D LIKE TO INTRODUCE MYSELF - Linda
Linda: I read your post and feel for you. I am a cancer survivor so
far...diagnosed 9/97. I have 3 daughters and they all have cried in front
of me briefly, I think Sloan Kettering told them to appear strong. What I
wanted to say is - if they cried all the time, I as a mother wouldn't be
able to discuss certain future plans with them, burial, etc. More
importantly if my kids were falling apart I would have to be to careful
with
them. The calmness they seemed to have took about a month after my
diagnosis, so cry now. Please know that this is just my opinion and
everyone's family is different. After about a month my doctor put me on
something to sleep at night so I wasn't quite so melancoly in the day time.
A good nights rest really helps. Later on I took Zoloft for about 5 weeks
and then St. John's Wort for about a month, just until I came to grips with
Acceptance. If you have any questions my email address is
Argila@telephonics.com. Take care of yourself so that you are in good
shape
for your father.
Your friend June A.
> -----Original Message-----
> From: George, Linda [SMTP:lindag@nac.net]
> Sent: Wednesday, April 14, 1999 8:49 AM
> To: 'mol-cancer@lists.meds.com'
> Subject: RE: [MOL] I'D LIKE TO INTRODUCE MYSELF
>
> Dear Frank:
>
> It's so good to know that you're out there. My prayers are with you too,
> and my heart goes out to your three daughters. I'm sure you're as special
> to them as my dad is to me.
>
> Maybe you can give me some pointers on what a dad needs to hear from his
> daughters (there are 4 of us), and maybe what he doesn't want to hear
when
>
> he is battling cancer. He lives in Florida, and I just came back from a
> 2-week visit. I was there with him at the doctor's office when he got his
> diagnosis. I felt like the earth fell from beneath my feet, but I held
> myself together pretty well. When we got home, he just broke down and
> sobbed like a baby, and I didn't know what to do or what to say. I tried
> to
> hug him, but he wanted to be alone and left the room. A lot of people
tell
>
> me never to cry in front of him. I'm not sure I agree with that. It's
such
>
> an emotional time for everyone involved - how can you not cry together?
>
> I'm home now in NJ, and we talk every day. He's being admitted today to
> begin his chemo. He has an acute leukemia. I appreciate your prayers and
> know that I'm praying for you and yours.
>
> Frank, I'd appreciate any suggestions you have. I want to do the best I
> can
> for my dad and be there when it really counts. I pray to God to lead me
in
>
> the right direction and to give me the wisdom to know what Dad needs.
>
> It feels great to be a part of this forum. The first thing I did this
> morning was to get on-line to write to you guys!! I feel a great comfort
> from knowing you are all there.
>
> Hope to hear from you soon.
>
> Love,
> Linda
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> From: Frank Cromie[SMTP:fmc@ndak.net]
> Reply To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
> Sent: Monday, April 12, 1999 9:34 PM
> To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
> Subject: Re: [MOL] I'D LIKE TO INTRODUCE MYSELF
>
>
> Dear Linda,my name is Frank and I belong to the MOL Group.I just want you
> to
> know that we have some of the nicest people on the net.And we will do
> whatever we can to help you thru this most difficult time in your life.I
> have three daughters,and all of them are scared to death about my
> condition,so I know a little bit how you may feel.I am a retired minister
> and I do my best to help out whenever needed.So you can be assured that
> there has been,and there is now prayers going to heaven on your dads and
> your behalf.God bless you and welcome.Love Frank C
>
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>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: Todd Hagerman <sewfun@bright.net>
> To: <mol-cancer@lists.meds.com>
> Sent: Monday, April 12, 1999 6:47 PM
> Subject: Re: [MOL] I'D LIKE TO INTRODUCE MYSELF
>
>
> > linda,
> > don't worry about rambling, everyone here understands and knows what
> you
> > are going thru. just hang in there and let this bunch of beautiful
> people
> > lift you up. and be there for you.
> > love,
> > tami
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: George, Linda <lindag@nac.net>
> > To: 'mol-cancer@lists.meds.com' <mol-cancer@lists.meds.com>
> > Date: Monday, April 12, 1999 2:42 PM
> > Subject: [MOL] I'D LIKE TO INTRODUCE MYSELF
> >
> >
> > >Hello everyone,
> > >
> > >My name is Linda George and I'm a new member of your cancer forum.
> Joicy
> > >Becker-Richards, my pastor and a cancer survivor, has told me about
> your
> > >group, and what a caring group you are. I also "know" Lillian from
> another
> > >e-mail group called "Faithtalk" that Joicy has set up. I've heard a
lot
> > >about Lillian, and I can see what a big part she plays your forum. Hi,
> > >Lillian.
> > >
> > >Anyway, the reason I'm here is because my dad has been diagnosed with
> acute
> > >myelogenous leukemia several weeks ago. He is going to be admitted to
> the
> > >Moffitt Cancer Center in Tampa, Florida this coming Wednesday. I am a
> very
> > >concerned and worried daughter who loves her dad more than anything.
> And
> I
> > >am so scared.
> > >
> > >I've done some research on this type of leukemia and I've learned a
> lot.
> > >I've also picked up some info on your forum re. chemotherapy and its
> > >effects and some herbal treatments, etc. that can help the immune sys
> tem,
> > >etc. I will vigorously read whatever is suggested to help my dad and
> our
> > >family through this journey.
> > >
> > >The doctor said he had a 50-70% chance of remission at his age. He's
> 75.
> > >I'm just so worried about him getting through aggressive chemo - they
> said
> > >some patients don't make it through. I'm to the point where he's all I
> > >think about 24 hours a day. It's hard for me to concentrate on my job.
> > >
> > >I know I'm rambling, but I need to share with people who can relate.
> Any
> > >input would be appreciated. And, of course, your prayers. That's
> something
> > >I do almost every waking moment.
> > >
> > >I look forward to hearing from you.
> > >
> > >Linda
> > >
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