Stefie, we missed you on the chat line last night! It was a full house,
your friend Jen was there also. A suggestion, in thinking about your mother
and your trying to break into her barriers have you tried counting to 10
before you even say one word to her? This is a trick I learned some time
ago, it brings our adult level out. We all have 3 levels, child, mother,
adult. Give it a try and see if perhaps this will bring her out. I know
how much you want her to take you in as her confident, all the while she is
fighting to spare you the pain. Funny how life is; but you just keep doing
the good works of mercy your doing and you can scream, twist and shout, cry,
vent, and laugh with us anytime. Your friend, lillian
-----Original Message-----
From: DpozTLC@AOL.COM <DpozTLC@AOL.COM>
To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com <mol-cancer@lists.meds.com>
Date: Wednesday, April 07, 1999 5:50 AM
Subject: [MOL] OK to cry
>Stephanie,
> It's OK to feel the despair of the reality of you and your mom's
>situation, just don't let it consume you. I try to be strong for my
husband
>and father too, and then sometimes we just cry together. Don't feel like
you
>always have to be the strong one. Crying is not necessarily a sign of
>"weakness", it's a symptom of caring and loving. So go ahead and cry until
>you can't anymore, then pick yourself up, be positive and fight the battle.
>Take every minute to make good memories and enjoy the time you have
together,
>regardless of the "prognosis".
>I have learned that much from joining this forum back in Oct '98. Your
>right, this is a great group of people with a common bond. I, too, am glad
I
>found them. Hang in there, you'll be just fine. Thanks for joining us.
>
>Sincerely,
>
>Nisi
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