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[MOL] thank you Tami

Dear TAmi,

Yes, indeed it did touch. Thank you.

God Bless

marty auslander

Todd Hagerman wrote:


> A Story to Live By (by Ann Wells L.A. Times)


> My brother-in-law opened the bottom drawer of my sister's

> bureau and lifted out a tissue-wrapped package. "This,"

> he said, "is not a slip. This is lingerie." he discarded the

> tissue and handed me the slip. It was exquisite; silk,

> handmade and trimmed with a cobweb of lace. The

> price tag with an astronomical figure on it was still attached.

> "Jan bought this the first time we went to New York, at least

> 8 or 9 years ago. She never wore it.She was saving it for a

> special occasion.

> Well I guess this is the occasion." He took the slip from me

> and put it on the bed with the other clothes we were taking to

> the mortitician. His hands lingered on the soft material for a

> moment, then he slammed the drawer shut and turned to

> me. "Don't ever save anything for a special occasion.

> Every day you're alive is a special occasion."

>   I remembered those words through the funeral and the

> days that followed when I helped him and my niece attend

> to all the sad chores that follow when there is a death. I

> thought about them on the plane returning to California from

> the Midwestern town where my sister's family lives. I thought

> about all the the things that she hadn't seen or heard or done. I

> thought about the things that she had done without realizing

> that they were special.

>   I'm still thinking about his words, and they've changed my

> life. I'm reading more and dusting less. I'm sitting on the

> deck and admiring the view without fussing about the

> weeds in my garden. I'm spending more time with my family

> and friends and less time in committee meetings.

> Whenever possible, life should be a pattern of experience

> to savor, not endure. I'm trying to recognize these moments

> now and cherish them.

>   I'm not "saving" anything; we use our good china and

> crystal for every special event-such as losing a pound,

> getting the sink unstopped, the first camellia blossom.

>   I wear my good blazer to the market if I feel like it.My theory

> is if I look prosperous, I can shell out $28.49 for one small

> bag of groceries without wincing. I'm not saving my good perfume

> for special parties; clerks in hardware stores and tellers in banks

> have noses that function as well as my party-going friends'.

>   "Someday" and "one of these days" are losing their grip

> on my vocabulary. If it's worth seeing ot hearing or doing, I

> want to see and hear and do it now. I'm not sure what my sister would have

> done had she known that she wouldn't be here for the tomorrow we all take

> for granted.

> I think she would have called family members and an few close friends.

> She might have called a few former friends to apologize and mend fences

> for past squabbles. I like to think she would have gone out for a Chinese

> dinner,

> her favorite food. I'm guessing-I'll never know.

>   It's those little things left undone that would make me angry

> if I knew that my hours were limited. Angry because I put off

> seeing good friends whom I was going to ger in touch with-someday.

> Angry because I hadn't written certain letters that I intended to write-one

> of these days. Angry and sorry that I didn't tell my husband and daughter

> often enough

> how much I truly love them. I'm trying very hard not to put off, holdback,

> or save

> anything that would add laughter and luster to our lives.

>   And every morning when I open my eyes, I tell muself that it is special.

>   Every day, every minute, every breath truly is .....a gift from God



> This was sent to me at work and I hoped it touched a few as it has done me.


> Love to all molers,

> Tami


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