Re: [MOL] adenocarcinoma stage 4/freefalling [03478] Medicine On Line


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Re: [MOL] adenocarcinoma stage 4/freefalling



Carla: you must be a very special person...You put it beautifully.  Thanks for a
very inspiring letter. Love. Cori.

Carla wrote:

> First of all, there is no protocol for the mol-cancer forum, so relax and
> know that this is a bulletin board that is full of wonderful people just
> like you and your husband, who are on the cancering journey..
>
> I am a cancer surivor of 15 months, adenocarcinoma, stage IIb.  They removed
> my right lung, but they filled the gap with spirit.  The spirit of one who
> wants to live and works hard at it.  It is the most important job that I
> have ever had.
>
> You have had others tell you that doctors are not God and they are not..  I
> am sorry to hear that your husbands doctor is not providing the key
> ingredient to life and that is hope.  None of us has any guarantees that we
> will live tomorrow, cancer or not, but we all must have hope and faith that
> we will.  When you do that is living the cancering journey as a cancering
> survivor.
>
> There is a book that I strongly urge you to go get today and/or tomorrow,
> and that is by Greg Anderson "Fifty Essential Things to Do When The Doctor
> Says It is Cancer".. This will give you and your husband a very clear
> concise roadmap to surviving.  Greg had lung cancer and was sent home to
> "die"..  He is still very much alive....  There are other books that I can
> recommend to you, but this is the most critical for the place that you are
> at..
>
> There is not one person alive on earth that can do more today, than to live
> their live the best they can..  There is not one person who can guarantee
> that they will be alive tomorrow..  Today, there are people who will be
> killed in car accidents, shootings, fires.. etc.  Do you know what separates
> them from those of us with a disease?  We know that we have another chance
> to live today better.  To love more, to give more, to make changes and to
> try to make a difference.  We can work towards survival and those who are
> taken so quickly, without notice may just have left without ever doing what
> they would like to have done and would have done... if they had only known
> what we know. Today is the one day that we can rely on.. this minute and in
> this minute is eternity.
>
> Please know that doctors have been wrong.  Please know that there have been
> exceptional patients that failed to meet the time frames given to their
> lives.  Please know that with hope you have a wonderful chance to live and
> without it, you will surely die.
>
> When statistics are given they are associated with 100 people.. So if the
> statistics quoted are 99% chance of not living over a specified time
> frame...  that actually means that one out of 100 will... I chose and now
> choose to be the one who will..  There are also miracles.. there are people
> who survive in spite of the medical sentences that are given to them... Now,
> to me that means that our lives are ultimately in God's hand and if he is
> not ready for us, then we will not be called.. no matter what the
> statistics..
>
> I know that your heart is in your throat right now and that the world
> doesn't seem real...  It seems as if your husband was so shocked that he
> hasn't found his heart yet and that is why he is accepting this sort of
> diagnosis at all...  Fear is the first part of the journey..  Freefalling is
> the second part, but while you are freefalling, you need to make a quick
> decision... do you want to open the parachute or not..
>
> I pray that you both are able to open the parachute and live the lives of
> cancering survivors.  I pray that you both will lift your hearts to God and
> empty your fears and pain to him.  Go to the mirror and ask yourselves
> whether or not you're going to open the chute...I pray your answer is yes..
> There is nothing worse than feeling victimized by this disease.. That is
> debilitating...  Know that if you make these attitude adjustments and fill
> with hope.. there is no telling what good things may befall you.  Know that
> the very worse thing would be that you found a whole new world in each and
> everyday that you were cancering survivors on the cancering journey...
>
> I wish you had signed your name...Know that I am sending a hug to you both
> and if I can help, please call on me.. There are many other wonderful people
> here who will want to help too.. May God Bless you, comfort you and guide
> you with his infinite wisdom.. Carla
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Kismuso@AOL.COM <Kismuso@AOL.COM>
> To: mol-cancer@meds.com <mol-cancer@meds.com>
> Date: Sunday, January 31, 1999 10:28 AM
> Subject: [MOL] adenocarcinoma stage 4
>
> >Hi,
> >
> >Please forgive me if I am not following the protocol.
> >
> >I am a wife whose husband was diagnosed with adenocarcinoma, stage 4, with
> two
> >tumors spread into the brain, two weeks ago.  The news was like the
> guillotine
> >falling on my neck and I am very confused. My husband seems to take it
> easy.
> >He had submitted himself to his oncologist and that's it. I feel like we
> >should be doing more especially since the oncologist told me that she does
> not
> >think that my husband "will make it".  Any survivors out there and any
> advice
> >from anybody? I am so scared. We have three little children and I am scared
> >for them. Thank you. I do not know if I need to sign my name. Please send
> me a
> >reply
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