Dear Mary,
I hope Angelo is feeling better by now. I don't blame him not liking the
hospital bed. I never liked them either. Maybe it has something to do
with not liking to be in hospitals. Maybe you should get him to read the
messages on MOL. I know that my jaw still drops when I read what some
people have lived through. It makes me feel stronger.
I think also normalization is very important. When my mom had a stroke, I
used to go over and see her and just talk about what was new, what was
going on with the family, etc. She couldn't talk much; I guess that's why
I found myself doing that, but I think it was good. If while I was there
she had to do something like go to the bathroom, I would help her do that,
pushing her leg along and holding her around the waist like the people at
the rehab taught us. But then that was just normal too, for then.
I've heard from so many people who had an easier time on chemo than I did.
I met two ladies, currently on chemo at my meditation class last week.
When I had my one chemo, I lived in the bathroom for about 6 days. My
husband took the cushion off the sofa. I had a million pillows, my
wallkman and a bottle of spring water. After that, for at least 10 days,
it seemed to take this tremendous amount of energy to do things like stand
up if I was sitting down.
Lots of love, prayers, and hugs for you always, sweetest marycake and
angelocake,
Martha
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> From: Mary Furfaro <furfaro@hometel.com>
> To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
> Subject: [MOL] update on Angelo
> Date: Thursday, January 07, 1999 6:10 AM
>
> I would like to thank everyone who sent Angelo and I encouraging
> words. You are always in our thoughts and prayers. Angelo received
> his second radiation treatment today (brain). He is very very weak
> and started vomiting this afternoon. I'm thinking that we were a
> little behind on his naseau medication and thats why he got sick.
> I hope thats the reason anyway. Hospital bed arrived today and we
> shoved our bed over to make room for it,, so that he will be right
> there beside me. He is a little apprehensive about sleeping in it
> I think. I think he feels like it is a submission to defeat if he
> sleeps in it. I told him, if he doesn't want to sleep in it he doesn't
> have to, but it will be there if he needs it. I'm trying to keep his
> spirits up but it is very hard. He just has no strength and I am
> afraid he has lost his fight! Please continue to pray for us as we
> will for all of our Mol Angels. We have been saying the rosary every
> night together. It does help.
>
> Love to you all, and I will keep you posted.
> Mary
>
> P.S. Nanc how are you feeling? I hope you are doing better.
> Love ya, Me
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