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Dear Jeanne: I don't feel as if I've been through much at all compared to some of our friends on line, but thank you. You're going through a lot yourself, and I've never really "heard" you complain! You've got courage, too -- to say nothing of compassion! Love, Kathy
-----Original Message-----
From: james kissinger [SMTP:jkissing@uvic.ca]
Sent: Thursday, January 07, 1999 5:12 AM
To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
Subject: [MOL] Kathy/Sonya
Kathy, you sure have been through a lot! I admire your courage and of many
others here. Sonya, I hope the ray of hope that Kathy provides will help
you and your family on your journey. I will pray for you and your family.
God Bless, Jeanne
At 11:10 AM 1/6/99 -0700, you wrote:
>Dear Sonya: First of all, your mother CAN file bankruptcy and still keep
>her house. Some things are exempt from a bankruptcy, the home being one of
>them. It's called a Homestead Exemption. Certain other things necessary
>for existence are also exempt. A good bankruptcy attorney can explain this
>to her. It's not unusual for people with this horrible disease to go
>through bankruptcy; in fact, it's very common.
>
>I was surprised to hear that your father was going through radiation for 4
>hours at a time -- five days a week -- but I certainly don't know everything
>about the treatments. It's good that he isn't nauseated -- he's going
>through an awful lot.
>
>I'm 56 years old, too, and started smoking when I was 22. Last December a
>large mass was found in my right lung. I was diagnosed with limited small
>cell lung cancer, because the cancer was only in the one place. The cancer
>was inoperable because the tumor was wrapped around a pulmonary artery. I
>went through very aggressive chemotherapy -- which included, but was not
>limited to, VP 16, Cisplatain, Taxol, Carboplatinum, Prednisone, etc. It
>made me very sick, but the doctor gave me Zophran to combat the nausea,
>Xanax or Ativan for the anxiety and listlessness; Ambien for sleep; Morphine
>or Darvocet for pain, etc. Also, the nicotine patch! LOL I also took a
>lot of other stuff that I can't remember, because I was obviously quite "out
>of it" much of the time. I went through six months of chemotherapy every 21
>days, and 6 weeks of radiation, once a day for 5 days a week. I had very
>few symptoms before my diagnosis, except for an irregular heartbeat and an
>occasional cough. I was being treated for the heart condition when they
>gave me a chest x-ray. They almost didn't!!!! After 5 weeks of radiation,
>my esophagus was burned to a crisp, and I couldn't swallow then and had to
>be hospitalized and put on an IV for nearly two weeks. It healed, and it's
>fine now. I've been cancer free since March of 1998. My last checkup was
>three weeks ago. Don't be too upset with the doctors for not giving you a
>weekly report. I had labs every week, but x-rays, CT scans, and MRIs every
>six weeks or so -- I really can't remember. Who told you that they do so
>many x-rays and chemos, and then the rest is up to God? I have a friend who
>has been through chemo seven times -- radiation at least that many. He's
>still hanging in there! I hope I've helped to alleviate your anxiety a
>little bit. If you have any questions you think I can answer, just ask.
>When Marty gets back, he'll have many answers for you, and of course,
>Lillian, Martha, Mam, and many of the others are tremendously knowledgeable
>and willing to share. Your friend, Kathy in Boise, Idaho.
>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: Sonya Walker [SMTP:sonya_86@yahoo.com]
>> Sent: Tuesday, January 05, 1999 6:52 PM
>> To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
>> Subject: Re: [MOL] APPRECIATE ALL YOU MOLERS
>>
>> Hi to all! My name is Sonya and right before Christmas I found out my
>> step father has lung cancer. He is 56 and the cancer has spread
>> throughout both of his lungs. When I heard about this for some reason
>> I wasn't surprised it's almost as if someday with him I knew it would
>> happen. He's smoked since he was 14 he's always said. In past
>> holidays/birthdays mom or my day would ask for cigarettes or lighters
>> as presents and I refused to do so. I didn't want this to happen and
>> feel like I was a part of what got him there. It's more a personal
>> feeling than what I believe would be true. The majority of the cancer
>> is behind his heart I've been told. He had a heart attack 13 years ago
>> and he also is a diabetic. I'm curious as to how both of these will
>> effect his health on top of his cancer? His esophogus is closing up.
>> He went in because he felt a lump in his throat and he was coughing
>> bad and breathing poorly. Nothing has been said to me about throat
>> cancer. Does it sound like he has cancer in his throat also? The
>> doctors have started radiation treatments 5 times a week for 4 hours
>> each day and once a week of chemotherapy. It's been going on for 2
>> weeks now but he's only had 4 days of raditation because of the
>> holidays. I've been told that the radiation won't make a difference
>> until after his third week. Mom said they haven't even x-rayed him to
>> see if it's doing a thing. She said he isn't getting nauseated which
>> the doctors say is a good thing. I heard they do so many radiation and
>> chemotherapy treatments and then that's that his life is up to God
>> from there. Is this true? He's in Arkansas and I'm in Virginia. This
>> is hard for me because I know no other father then him. He's been in
>> my life since I was 3. I have 2 daughters who love him very much also.
>> The doctors have given him 2 months to 12 months to live. At first
>> they had thought that cancer was in his stomach also but nothing has
>> been mentioned of this. They did tell my mom who has been relaying
>> everything to me that they will not perform surgery on his lungs
>> because the cancer is spread throughout them both. I'd really like to
>> get any information on what I am about to deal with. My mother is not
>> asking very many questions and the doctors don't seem to be giving
>> very many answers. My mom is on medicare and is a nurse's aid with
>> little salary. My dad didn't work before all this. I'm an only child
>> with no money to give them ourselves. My husband is in the Air Force
>> and we are having hard times ourselves and I'm a stay at home mom. Can
>> the cancer society or anyone else help them out finacially? Mom is
>> looking into information of filing bankruptcy. She thinks she can do
>> that and keep her house. Is this possible? I hate to hear such words
>> from her mouth. I feel as though I have to be the one who finds out as
>> much as I can because my mother wants to face this through God and
>> herbal remedies which is fine for now but I want to be there for her
>> and be fully informed. I feel pretty much lost and the separation of
>> many miles sucks at a time like this. He keeps telling me on the phone
>> he's fine and he sounds fine but I know he's not fine. What can I do
>> to make his life happy for both of them for that matter. She didn't
>> buy him any Christmas presents because she told me "what do I buy him
>> with all this going on? Any information would be appreciated.
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>
>> ---W & M Rose <FEARME@bigpond.com> wrote:
>> >
>> > Welcome Tami,
>> > It is nice to hear from one of the many 'silent' molers out there, and
>> > lovely to hear that we have been helping. Please feel free to jump
>> right in,
>> > say whatever you feel, and ask any questions you need.
>> > :) Much love
>> > Mam
>> > -----Original Message-----
>> > From: Todd Hagerman <sewfun@bright.net>
>> > To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com <mol-cancer@lists.meds.com>
>> > Date: Tuesday, 5 January 1999 13:00
>> > Subject: [MOL] APPRECIATE ALL YOU MOLERS
>> >
>> >
>> > >I HAVE BEEN RECEIVING EMAIL FROM ALL OF YOU SINCE THE END OF
>> NOVEMBER.
>> > >THERE IS SO MUCH LOVE AND CARING. I HAVE ONLY BEEN READING IT AND
>> NEVER
>> > >POSTING MY OWN MESSAGE.
>> > > MY DAD WAS DIAGNOSED IN JUNE '98 WITH NON-SMALL CELL LUNG CANCER
>> > >STAGE III, MY SISTER-IN-LAW WAS DIAGNOSED WITH GRADE 2 ASTROCYTOMA
>> > >(BRAIN TUMOR) 2 YEARS AGO, IT COVERS THE FRONT QUARTER OF HER BRAIN
>> AND IT
>> > >IS INOPERALBLE.
>> > > I FEEL SO HELPLESS SOMETIMES, NOT KNOWING WHAT TO SAY OR DO. I
>> HAVE BEEN
>> > >FORWARDING ALOT OF EMAILS FROM MOLERS TO MY DAD. HE REALLY SEEMS TO
>> BE
>> > >UPLIFTED AND GAINS ALOT OF INFO.
>> > > MY NAME IS TAMI AND I JUST THOUGHT IT WAS TIME TO JOIN IN.
>> > >
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