SHHHHHH! Everytime my husband and I think we are alone, in comes one of the
troops......My one son when he was in the Navy was stationed just an hour away
and he would come home with sometimes 10 guys. I would get up in the morning
and step over bodies everywhere in my house and I have a very large house. I
told my husband we should buy 5, 3 tier bunk beds and charge the guys $10.00 a
night....ofcourse he said no; but if you think of $150.00 it what a way to earn
some money. LOL! Vicci, I am sure you are a very good guardian ad litem that
serves with only love and understanding. Your friend, Lillian
Vicci Ewen wrote:
> Dear Jean
> Thank you and I do have to say that I learn a lot from these children. It
> is so heartbreaking to see what so many children are going thru. I don't
> think that what is happening is anything new but that society is now
> accepting responsibility for things that were once hidden and not
> discussed. With the amount of drugs around today there is probably just
> more children in need. My letter last night to Liz was so long that I
> didn't say why I became an advocate. My older son and his significant
> other have 2 babies and drinking and drugs were involved. They live 5
> hours away from us. The turmoil was unbearable and I made call after call
> to our state services for help for these children. They would check it out
> and things would be ok for a little while. They (Services for Children and
> Families) finally called me in Feb of 97 to ask if I would take the babies
> while my son and his girl attended alcohol and drug counciling and domestic
> violence counciling. They were 13 months and 2 1/4 years old boys. I took
> care of them for 10 months while mom and dad did what they had to do. Mom
> got the boys back Dec 20, 1997. She is much better but dad (my older son)
> did not finish his treatment. He is with us also, right now, and he is
> about to be on his way as he can't seem to stop the drinking. He's working
> but wants that beer when he gets off work. We've discussed this and we
> don't know how to help him as it seems he doesn't want to stop. Tough love
> again...he will probably be asked to leave tonight. He did go thru 4
> months of treatment so he has the knowledge but not the want. My boys were
> not raised with alcohol and John and I were not raised with alcohol. It
> just sort of started......I guess like Rich's cancer, no one on either side
> with cancer, just started. In treatment both boys have had to share the
> issues of their life and have both told us on separate occasions that they
> feel bad after hearing what their peers have gone thru with alcoholic and
> drug addicted parents. They said there were horror stories that they just
> couldn't believe. Rapes, beating, neglect, mental abuse like they didn't
> know existed. Older son will leave tonight and Rich will probably have
> social security soon and then John and I can live in our house along for
> the first time in our marriage. Yea!!!!! We both need that right now.
> They are old enough to live their life how they want. Like someone said
> earlier, "What would they do if you wern't there?"
> Back to the CASA program. I had just became a CASA 5 months before taking
> the babies. It is such a worthwhile program and I've learned a lot about
> court reports and the social system. Anyone interested please let me know
> and I will find a number for you to call. You don't have a great deal to
> do with the children thereselves except to make sure they look good. You
> can't drive them around in your car. You mostly interview people involved
> and check the records at social services and visit once every 2 weeks and
> then submit court reports on your views about how the case is going. The
> judges here love the CASA's and rely heavily on our word.
> Jean, did I miss the e-mail with your brother's response after you mailed
> him back? How did it go? Are you both staying in touch? I hope so. I
> have two brothers and we've been pretty close all our lives. It helps when
> my husband is their best friend too. Boy I talk a lot.. Love to you
> Vicci
>
> ----------
> > From: Thomas A Johnson <jtjohnson@juno.com>
> > To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
> > Subject: [MOL] Vicci
> > Date: Wednesday, July 29, 1998 5:21 AM
> >
> > Vicci,
> > I just want to say God bless you for doing the work that you do! When we
> > were children, my brothers and I had to go to court to tell the judge
> > which parent we wanted to live with - a very traumatic experience. It's
> > so nice to know there are advocates for children in crisis like this. I
> > don't recall there being one for us back then. You should be proud of
> > yourself for doing such valuable work. Children are so helpless within
> > families in turmoil.
> > -Jean
> >
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