Hi Joicy, Thank you for the kudos! It seems that every day has it's ups
and down with him and we are all ( his girlfriend of seven years, me and
dad) right on top of him. Only if he starts in do we let him know exactly
how we feel about what he doing or saying or acting. Maybe one of these
days IT will sink in. I have to admit after going thru this for weeks now
that he's the same immature person he was before surgery. That's whats
helping me now. I've figured out that he has a great outlook about his
situation ( or has disregarded it totally) and he is the very same person
he was before. I don't want him to be depressed or worried every second
about the cancer so I guess I can be glad that he's the same pain in the
butt as he was before C.
Also I've figured out that his emotions take to the highest level. When
he's happy he VERY happy, if mean then VERY mean, if helpful then VERY
helpful. There is nothing low key about Rich. This C is helping me to
know my very own kid like never before. And he can change moods VERY
quickly and OFTEN. I always loved the roller coaster at the Long Beach
pike and at Magic Mountain but this is one roller coaster ride I wish had a
few less ups and downs. Thanks, Joicy for the good advice. It really does
help to have different perspectives. Love ya Vicci
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> From: Joicy Becker-Richards <joicy@erols.com>
> To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com
> Subject: Re: [MOL] Re: Vicci
> Date: Friday, July 24, 1998 12:22 PM
>
> Vicci,
> You are doing great, you know! It is so very hard to hold the line on
> these things, even under the best of circumstances. Rich has a chance to
> grow into an adult through this, and the more he has to do the "right
> thing" the better I think he will ultimately feel about himself, and the
> more self-respect he will have. Folks know when they are being a jerk,
> and they don't like themselves for it. But sometimes they get "stuck,"
> and don't have the discipline to make the change by themselves. I've
> learned this from my kids, who have been sharing with me their feelings
> about how they felt when we were going through the "bumps" of
> adolescence. My son had to join the Coast Guard to get unstuck. They do
> know what's right and fair, and even if they fight you, they know you're
> doing the right thing for them. So hang tough, Lady! Lots of prayers and
> love, Joicy
>
> Vicci Ewen wrote:
> >
> > I seemed to have nipped a few things in the bud as this guy has been
real
> > nice lately. I do think that he is feeling much much better and that
this
> > has a lot to do with it. Like Lillian says, I have to remember what
kind of
> > emotional level he's at. Trying to digest this whole cancer thing. I
> > still think he's doing a good job of that. He's back to cracking jokes
> > about everything. I had a another talk with him about how this chemo
> > "might" affect him and told him I needed him to be a cooperative as
> > possible so that we can get thru this with him. I know he tries but
just
> > has a very low tolerance level when he's not feeling well. I will
stick to
> > my guns and I want to thank you for the prayers. Love to you, Vicci
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