Well said as usual, Lillian. I was especially glad to hear your dad has
taken up the fight, William. I have never asked this before but has anyone
taped their loved memoirs? Genealogists do this and I think it is a good
idea. When I was diagnosed, I was worried that I would not finish the
family history and realized that I had not finished my mom and dad's
remembrances. In the process of taping my dad's memories, feelings he had
not expressed, leaked through. It is a cathartic experience and good for
all...it does draw the family closer and gives comfort to all. Cancer
patients and I am one, draw much benefit from realizing how many people
love and how much they would be missed.
Mary, Sally, and William, my prayers will be with you all, LOL (means lots
of love or lots of luck). We will be with you in heart on your journey.
God Bless, Jeanne
At 06:26 PM 7/15/98 -0400, you wrote:
>How well you have put it all and how happy I am to hear that your Dad has
taken up
>the fight, that mean's he has hope and without hope he would only just
dwindle
>away. He is courageous and I hope that his loved one's know this and
support him
>in his decisions. Understand that the treatment any doctor gives is what is
>provided by the hospital in which they are connected, and rarely will a
doctor
>offer another treatment that would have to be done at another hospital.
This is
>very important information. So get on the net, look up the sites I sent
you and
>also look at the on going trials. This will be beneficial in the decision
making
>process that is ahead for your father. Thank you for keeping us posted;
as we
>care very much. Your friend, Lillian
>
>Mary Furfaro wrote:
>
>> WILLIAM G HALE wrote:
>> >
>> > Dear Mary,
>> >
>> > We are going through the exact same thing with my father, also
>> > diagnosed 2 months ago with a stage IV adenocarcinoma in his right lung.
>> > There's my Dad, 66, my Mom, 65, and 2 brothers and sisters ranging in age
>> > from 43 to 37. Your descriptions sound so much like what we are
>> > experiencing. My oldest sister seems to be having such a hard time with
>> > this. She was telling me how difficult it
>> > is for her to visit my parents; my Dad always goes to the screen door to
>> > wave goodbye as we drive away; she says that she can't stop crying when
>> > she thinks about how it may not be too much longer before he may be
>> > saying goodbye for the last time. I think we are all having the problem
>> > of realizing that our loved ones are not promised to us forever, that our
>> > time with them is too short and all too precious. I have gotten a great
>> > deal of comfort from Greg Anderson's book "50 Things to do when the
>> > Doctor says its cancer" (thank you Sheila, Lillian, Carla,
>> > & other MOL'ers for this and other invaluable coping resources). I have
>> > gotten a copy to my Mom & Dad as well as my oldest sister; my dad has
>> > already shown
>> > a more hopeful and involved approach to his condition and treatment. He
>> > has started getting actively involved in his own nutrition, and has an
>> > appointment scheduled with an oncologist for a second opinion. Not that
>> > he is unhappy with his current oncologist, but he is taking the approach
>> > that he should explore every option possible. This gives me the most
>> > hope; he feels that there are ways to beat this disease. We are all
>> > still going through the roller coaster; he has had days when he seems as
>> > healthy as before, days where the pain and side effects take their toll.
>> > It does feel sometimes like I'm losing my mind; I've gone from a safe
>> > regular routine of work, home, wife, and family with the presumption that
>> > this would always be to the realization that at any given time those
>> > things I love the most can be taken from me. But at least now I realize
>> > what is most important to me and what I need devote the most time to.
>> > I realize I've rambled all over the place. I just wanted to let you
>> > know how much your experience reminds me of my own, and that I am praying
>> > for you and your family.
>> >
>> > Bill Hale
>> > On Fri, 10 Jul 1998 19:46:46 -0400 Mary Furfaro <furfaro@hometel.com>
>> > writes:
>> > >Dear Sally,
>> > >
>> > >My husband is also 42 years old, and we have been married for 21 years
>> > >in September. My heart goes out to you. It is very hard for me.
>> > >We have four children, ages, l9, l5, 7, and 5. The three oldest
>> > >are girls and the 5 year old is the boy my husband always dreamed
>> > >about. NOt that he doesn't adore his girls!!
>> > >
>> > >My husband had stage lV lung cancer. I am so scared! It's only
>> > >been two months since his diagnosis. I just don't know what lies
>> > >ahead and it's terrifying.
>> > >
>> > >I am trying to be strong for him and for our children. Sometimes
>> > >I feel like I am losing my mind, like this is all a bad dream or
>> > >something and I am going to wake up, or should I say, I pray to
>> > >wake up and find it was just a dream.
>> > >
>> > > Sorry to keep running off at the mouth. My sympathy's are with
>> > >you. I will pray for you both.
>> > >
>> > >God Bless You
>> > >Mary
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>> Thankyou for your message of understanding. This is a very terrifying
>> journey that we are embarking on. I will pray for your father and
>> your family.
>>
>> Thanks again,
>> God Bless You
>> Mary
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