WILLIAM G HALE wrote:
>
> Dear Mary,
>
> We are going through the exact same thing with my father, also
> diagnosed 2 months ago with a stage IV adenocarcinoma in his right lung.
> There's my Dad, 66, my Mom, 65, and 2 brothers and sisters ranging in age
> from 43 to 37. Your descriptions sound so much like what we are
> experiencing. My oldest sister seems to be having such a hard time with
> this. She was telling me how difficult it
> is for her to visit my parents; my Dad always goes to the screen door to
> wave goodbye as we drive away; she says that she can't stop crying when
> she thinks about how it may not be too much longer before he may be
> saying goodbye for the last time. I think we are all having the problem
> of realizing that our loved ones are not promised to us forever, that our
> time with them is too short and all too precious. I have gotten a great
> deal of comfort from Greg Anderson's book "50 Things to do when the
> Doctor says its cancer" (thank you Sheila, Lillian, Carla,
> & other MOL'ers for this and other invaluable coping resources). I have
> gotten a copy to my Mom & Dad as well as my oldest sister; my dad has
> already shown
> a more hopeful and involved approach to his condition and treatment. He
> has started getting actively involved in his own nutrition, and has an
> appointment scheduled with an oncologist for a second opinion. Not that
> he is unhappy with his current oncologist, but he is taking the approach
> that he should explore every option possible. This gives me the most
> hope; he feels that there are ways to beat this disease. We are all
> still going through the roller coaster; he has had days when he seems as
> healthy as before, days where the pain and side effects take their toll.
> It does feel sometimes like I'm losing my mind; I've gone from a safe
> regular routine of work, home, wife, and family with the presumption that
> this would always be to the realization that at any given time those
> things I love the most can be taken from me. But at least now I realize
> what is most important to me and what I need devote the most time to.
> I realize I've rambled all over the place. I just wanted to let you
> know how much your experience reminds me of my own, and that I am praying
> for you and your family.
>
> Bill Hale
> On Fri, 10 Jul 1998 19:46:46 -0400 Mary Furfaro <furfaro@hometel.com>
> writes:
> >Dear Sally,
> >
> >My husband is also 42 years old, and we have been married for 21 years
> >in September. My heart goes out to you. It is very hard for me.
> >We have four children, ages, l9, l5, 7, and 5. The three oldest
> >are girls and the 5 year old is the boy my husband always dreamed
> >about. NOt that he doesn't adore his girls!!
> >
> >My husband had stage lV lung cancer. I am so scared! It's only
> >been two months since his diagnosis. I just don't know what lies
> >ahead and it's terrifying.
> >
> >I am trying to be strong for him and for our children. Sometimes
> >I feel like I am losing my mind, like this is all a bad dream or
> >something and I am going to wake up, or should I say, I pray to
> >wake up and find it was just a dream.
> >
> > Sorry to keep running off at the mouth. My sympathy's are with
> >you. I will pray for you both.
> >
> >God Bless You
> >Mary
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Dear Bill,
Thankyou for your message of understanding. This is a very terrifying
journey that we are embarking on. I will pray for your father and
your family.
Thanks again,
God Bless You
Mary
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