Dear Sally,
I have read and re-read your message and each time, expecting to feel
sadness, I feel only admiration. I admire and celebrate the love that
you and Charlie have...and will always have. The two of you are indeed
blessed with a special union of spirit and soul.
On the practical side of dealing with the family I can but offer two
thoughts. The first I have experienced first hand and that is, NO ONE
understands the journey the two of you have been on nor the beast that
cancer is except those of us directly charged with living with it each
and every day. They do not now...nor will they ever. So, don't expect
them to.
The other thought, one that God willing I never experience, and that is
losing a child as a parent. No matter how old nor how sick that is
always your child and children are not supposed to die before their
parents. There is a lot of emotion in the family that surounds the two
of you...grief, anger, looking to place fault or blame, looking for some
way out.
You will have to be very strong to protect Charlie's dignity, peace and
comfort. I know that you can do it and try to understand that they (the
family) don't hate you, don't blame you...they hate and blame what cancer
has done to their son.
Be strong, firm and direct and know that we are all there with you my
dear courageous spirit!
God Bless You and Hold You in His Embrase.
John
ps: What I do best in life is digesting "vents"!!!...especially yours.
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