Thank you Joicy, and you are right of course. He seems happier now that he has
his own income. I am so glad that SSI and Social Security came through. Though
get this, in six months when he starts getting his Social Security his income
will be too high to qualify for Medicaid. He doesn't have insurance and he
won't qualify for Medicare for two more years. Sometimes I really hate the way
our government works. Enough of my soap box.
You all are correct about his independence, I have suggested to him to get him a
car so he will have some freedom, to do what he wants when he wants to. I think
that here pretty soon he may just do that. I wish we had the money to get a
second car, to give him some of that freedom. But I am doing what I can. And I
am okay with that. It is amazing how much alike he and I are. He feels bad for
not being able to do more for us, and I feel bad for not being able to do more
for him. Isn't love wonderful? And I am not being sarcastic. It is wonderful.
So I am going to take him in the next couple of weeks to get on the housing
waiting list. I appreciate all of you all's advice.
Sheila
Joicy Becker-Richards wrote:
> Just to throw my 2 cents in...Sheila, I think you are handling things so
> well, and Cindy, I think you're really on target about the independence
> issue. I know that during my treatments (and since, with a chronic back
> problem) the worst part is feeling helpless. Anything you can do,
> Sheila, to safely return that sense of independence to him, will I'm
> sure be deeply appreciated! Love to you both, Joicy
>
> ------------------
> John & Sheila Lloyd wrote:
> >
> > Thank you Cindy, very sound advice. And I believe you may be right.
> > His next drs appt isn't untill the 26th, but we should know a little
> > something on the 19th, besides the waiting list is a year or so, so it
> > really can't hurt to get him on it. He said, I could die tomorrow, or
> > I could still be here 5 or 10 years form now. I guess he is right.
> > Thank you again for your support.
> >
> > Love ya,
> > Sheila
> >
> > Cindy Crowe wrote:
> >
> > Sheila, You know me, an opinion on everything!!! As long
> > as you feel your dad is still competant, I would let him
> > make the decision and try your best to be supportive of
> > him. This may be what he needs to feel as though he's taken
> > some control of his life back. I'm sure that he's felt many
> > negative emotions for, what in his mind, is having to take
> > advantage of you. You know the male macho emotions and
> > especially those parents who have to be cared for by their
> > children. I'm sure that must be very hard for him. I
> > understand your concerns, also, about him being alone. I
> > can't remember the name for sure, maybe Lifeline, or
> > something like that but you wear it around your neck at all
> > times so if you fall or get into some other type of medical
> > problem, you can push the button on it and an ambulance is
> > dispatch to your home location. I haven't heard about them
> > recently but I'm sure you could check with your dad's dr.s
> > office or a hospital to see if they have any info on this.
> > If they still exist and are affordable (maybe covered under
> > his Medicare) that would allow him the pride of "taking care
> > of himself" and you the comfort of knowing that he can
> > contact help in the event he needs it. This might be part of
> > the reason your dad is so afraid of opening up to you right
> > now (just a thought). But feeling he is almost totally
>
> >
> >
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