Jean,
Thank you, how easily I forget. I too in my life have stood in front of the
mirror doing affirmations. And over time it does work. I feel so much better
about myself than I did 10 years ago. The difference is emmense. Just never
thought about doing affirmations on a situation, I bet it will work also. Thank
you. And you are right, there are positives and negatives to every situation,
and it is how you look at it. I have been feeling lonely, and wanting to get
out of the house, just didn't think that a job would be how I would do it. But
what better way, than to make money while making friends, and getting my own
life. I knew I needed an attitude adjustment, and you and Martin have given me
one this morning. Thank you. And don't you give up on yourself. You are
worthy and deserving of good things in your life. No matter what anybody else
has ever told you. I know this from experience.
Sheila
Thomas A Johnson wrote:
> Sheila,
> Since having to get an outside job is inevitable, perhaps it's time to
> start with the positive affirmations so you can ready yourself to grab
> the job that's just right for you. Tell yourself "I am ready to receive
> the perfect job for me." Check into books by Louise Hayes. I bought one
> of her workbooks & I've just finished reading through it. Now I'm going
> to go back & work through it. I'm not sure I agree with everything she
> says, but positive affirmations do make sense in that you are more likely
> to recognize and grasp good opportunities in life if you are feeling less
> negative toward them and more open and accepting. Also, it is so much
> easier to accept things w/a tsp. of honey rather than vinegar, right?
> Hold onto the good. Expect the good. We can't control the things that
> happen to us, but we can control our attitudes. By raising our
> expectations and developing a positive outlook, we are more likely to
> attract good things. And we're less likely to be mired in negativity,
> which is always unpleasant and just makes a "bad" situation worse anyway.
>
> Anyway, if you know that you absolutely have to return to work then you
> will just make a "bad" situation worse by dwelling on the negative
> aspects of it. Look for the good in it. Perhaps the good will be that
> you will get some time away from the house, a brief respite. Or you can
> tell yourself "I draw new friends to me," and expect that you'll make new
> friends at your new job, people who may prove to be very uplifting and
> important to you. Look for the books by Louise Hayes. One of her books
> is filled w/affirmations. Or go to this spot on the internet
> http://www.io.com/~rga/affirm2.html and see if some of the affirmations
> at this site would apply to your situation. Think of how many negative
> thoughts we feed ourselves daily and then you'll know that you need to
> feed in just that many positive thoughts to off-set them. At least, it
> makes sense to me. I won't say I don't feel a little foolish standing in
> front of the mirror & reciting positive affirmations to myself aloud, but
> I'm expecting to see a real difference in time. And after awhile I will
> come to believe these positive things I'm feeding myself in the same way
> that the many years of negative things said to me convinced me of their
> truth. I choose to believe that I have control over my attitudes and I
> can make a "bad" (that's in quotes only because a situation is as bad or
> good as you perceive it to be) situation better by focusing on the good
> aspects of it. And I can draw good things to myself by telling myself
> that I deserve them, I expect them, and I'll recognize them when they
> appear.
>
> Anyway, I've gone on a bit longer than I'd planned to, but I hope you get
> the idea. Since you have to go back to work, look for the good that can
> arise from it. Also, try some visualization. Visualize yourself in the
> perfect job with co-workers and a boss you like, etc. Open yourself up,
> because when you look at things negatively you make yourself less likely
> to pick up on the good opportunities and aspects of life.
>
> -Jean
> P.S. I am trying to use this method for myself, too. At my last job, I
> had a situation that was totally devastating to me. I won't go into it,
> but I have some positive affirmations of my own I have to work through,
> and I have to get to the point where I forgive myself and the people I
> worked with. I am coming to accept that much of the problem I had,
> though, was due to my own insecurities and negative beliefs about myself.
> It's amazing how negative draws negative and positive draws positive.
> So I have affirmations posted in my bathroom, on the fridge, and I have
> some next to my bed. Feed your mind nourishing, positive thoughts - just
> as you feed your body nourishing food. Think of youself as your own
> child. If you knew your child had to go get a job and was reluctant to
> do so, what would you tell him/her? Would you dwell on the negative
> aspects of it or the positive aspects? There is nothing that is
> completely bad or completely good. Look for the good.
>
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