I only picked up on you because it is my nature and some of the other MOLERS
nature to appear to be so strong as their heart aches. Now let me guess,
are you in the banking business? Marty needs to tell you what field he is
in....LOL. Those who have never been around cancer truly don't know what to
say (that is appropriate that is). Their intentions are well meaning; yet
often toxic to those of us who need to stay positive at all times. If there
any MOLERS from the Portland area, please respond to Ruth. Ruth, I want you
to know that two Leo's just doesn't hack it!! LOL. If you reach a point
where you need some assistance (you may not reach that point) try Hospice
and your visiting home health nurses. Both groups are so good and so
caring. I would suggest you get into a cancer support group (live) where
people will speak the same lingo as you and will know how to really get you
through all of this. There must be a cancer support group around you, call
the Amer. Cancer Society Local Chapter. Meanwhile you know the MOLERS all
love and support you, who knows you may have too many friends in the
end????? Your friend, Lillian
-----Original Message-----
From: Ruth Devine <drruth@onlinemac.com>
To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com <mol-cancer@lists.meds.com>
Date: Sunday, April 26, 1998 1:09 PM
Subject: Re: [MOL] Re: RUTH!
>Dear Lillian,
>You are so wonderful and wise! Didn't think I let my feelings show so
>much, but you sure picked up on them.
>True, I have always been very strong, a lot of times to my detriment! You
>are also so right about our children returning to the next. We raise them
>to become strong, independent adults and their ways are not always our
>ways! To top it all off, my daughter was born on my birthday and we are
>both Leo's! Can you imagine that combination?
>I am now living in a small town about 1 1/2 southwest of Portland, OR.
>Moved here about 2 1/2 yrs ago for a job opportunity and have regretted the
>decision ever since. Have tried to make the best of the situation though.
>Another "how true" regarding friends before cancer! I have not developed
>real close relationships with anyone since moving here. Most people have
>acted very pleasant, however I believe they do not know how to react to you
>and the seriousness of what you are dealing with. I find that most
>conversations are quite awkward, however I try to put people at ease in
>talking with me.
>Thanks for the Sunday morning uplift and being such a caring person!
>Ruth
>
>----------
>> You do know that Ruth of the Bible was a very strong women and I suspect
>you
>> are the same. Once the children leave the nest, it just never works out
>for
>> them to come back no matter what the reasons are. I know this has hurt
>you;
>> but please understand this is just a fact of life. Its that simple dear
>> heart. Are you from Texas? You know we have several wonderful MOL
>members
>> from that state. If you are not of Texas, then do you mind telling me
>what
>> state you live in? We may be able to help you get a friend to help you
>> through this. I am going to let you in on another little life secret.
>The
>> friends you have before cancer, may not be the same as after cancer with
>the
>> latter being a much more of a sincere bonding and more rewarding. My
>> prayers, and let me know. Thanks, your friend, Lillian
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: Ruth Devine <drruth@onlinemac.com>
>> To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com <mol-cancer@lists.meds.com>
>> Date: Saturday, April 25, 1998 11:51 PM
>> Subject: Re: [MOL] MYSTERY WOMEN!
>>
>>
>> >Hi Lillian,
>> >Still trying to catch up with things. No I'm not married, single by
>> >choice. When I got diagnosed my daughter decided to come and stay with
>me
>> >for awhile. I'm really grateful that she did, but things are not
working
>> >out too well. She came for all the wrong reasons and neither of us were
>> >prepared for each other. She hoping to leave by the end of May.
>> >I'm having quite a dillemma as to what I'll do. I have only lived in
>this
>> >area about 2 1/2 yrs and don't have any family or many close friends
>here.
>> > My health insurance is a HMO and they are telling me they won't provide
>> >covereage if I move out of state. I have several places I could go, but
>> >can't give up the insurance. Am going to do more calling next week, then
>if
>> >I still don't get anywhere, I will start a serious campaign to try to
get
>> >help.
>> >It only makes sense to me that the costs would be the same or less to
the
>> >insurance company if I am getting care at home and not have to depend
>> >others.
>> >Will keep you updated.
>> >Ruth
>> >
>> >----------
>> >> I was sorry to hear the chemo took more out of you this time; but that
>> you
>> >> are feeling better. Is it the fatigue one hear's so much about that
>put
>> >you
>> >> down? So you will be the great MOLER MYSTERY WOMEN, huh? Great and
>Ruth
>> >we
>> >> enjoy having you with us. This is one great group of people and we
>are
>> >so
>> >> fortunate to have each other. Are you married? I was wondering if
you
>> >had
>> >> someone to help you when you come home from a treatment? Sure hope
so.
>> >> Take care, your friend, Lillian
>> >>
>> >>
>> >> -----Original Message-----
>> >> From: Ruth Devine <drruth@onlinemac.com>
>> >> To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com <mol-cancer@lists.meds.com>
>> >> Date: Friday, April 24, 1998 12:24 AM
>> >> Subject: Re: [MOL] Re: Hillary Clinton Wanna Be......
>> >>
>> >>
>> >> >Hi Lillian,
>> >> >Am finally getting around to replying to some messages! Had chemo on
>> the
>> >> >14th and it knocked me down for a week. Went out yesterday for the
>> first
>> >> >time. It seemed to be a little rougher this time (my 3rd treatment)
>but
>> >> >when I bounced back, I felt better than I did before. I think that's
>a
>> >> >good sign and may have been worth a little rougher week.
>> >> >I had to go to a different office in a different town, (same onc) for
>> >this
>> >> >treatment. Much bigger and sounds like a more typical chemo
treatment
>> >> >setup with recliners, tv's, vcr's and other creature comforts. They
>> even
>> >> >had wig catalogs so I took a copy of the TLC and I think the other
was
>> >> >Paula Jones. Did some ordering today so am anxious for my new looks
>to
>> >> >arrive! Have only had my Hillary look, but soon will become the
>mystery
>> >> >woman!
>> >> >Have tried to keep up with everyone's postings. Really enjoy the
>jokes
>> >and
>> >> >it's so heart warming to feel the comradare here on MOL. Will talk
>with
>> >> >you soon.\
>> >> >Ruth
>> >> >
>> >> >----------
>> >> >> Dear Hillary, excuse me, I meant Ruth ! The wig sounds great and
>> >having
>> >> a
>> >> >> few will keep you occupied when folks turn their head and say "was
>> that
>> >> >> Ruth? I thought she had brown hair? Replied: " No dear, she's a
>> >redhead"
>> >> >and
>> >> >> Ruth will go skipping off tee heeing all the way home! Keep your
>> sense
>> >> of
>> >> >> humor, it will get you through just about anything life puts on
your
>> >> >plate.
>> >> >> Glad your on board. Your friend, Lillian
>> >> >>
>> >> >>
>> >> >>
>> >> >>
>> >> >> -----Original Message-----
>> >> >> From: Ruth Devine <drruth@onlinemac.com>
>> >> >> To: firefly <firefly@islc.net>
>> >> >> Date: Sunday, April 12, 1998 1:00 PM
>> >> >> Subject: Re: Happy Easter!
>> >> >>
>> >> >>
>> >> >> >Lillian,
>> >> >> >Sorry I didn't receive your card. How thoughtful of you to think
>of
>> >me!
>> >> >> >Happy Easter to you! I have been having some problems with my
>mail -
>> >> >have
>> >> >> >sent some messages and they just seem to disappear. I did end up
>> >buying
>> >> >a
>> >> >> >wig from a medical supply specializing in hair prothesis. Don't
>know
>> >if
>> >> >> >insurance will cover, but had dr. give me a precription and am
>going
>> >to
>> >> >> >submit. I went with a completly different style than I had worn
>and
>> >am
>> >> >> >having fun with it. My daughter and I call it my Hillary Clinton
>do.
>> >> >> >That's not to mean I am a Hillary Clinton wanna be (heaven
forbid).
>> >The
>> >> >do
>> >> >> >just seemed to appeal to me. I am one of those excessive
>> >personalities
>> >> >> >where one is never enough, so I am considering other types of hair
>> >> >pieces.
>> >> >> >Really glad I found MOL. Didn't interact much at first (guess it
>> took
>> >> >some
>> >> >> >getting used to traveling this road) but am certainly grateful to
>all
>> >of
>> >> >> >you who have brightened my days with your optimism and humor and
>> >allowed
>> >> >me
>> >> >> >to share in your most personal thoughts.
>> >> >> >Ruth
>> >> >> >
>> >> >> >----------
>> >> >> >> Dear Ruth: I had sent you an Easter card; however it was
>returned
>> >to
>> >> >me
>> >> >> >> twice. Saw your messages tonight and jotted down your e-mail
>> >address.
>> >> > I
>> >> >> >> was glad to see their is someone else with the same dx as you.
>> >> >Everyone
>> >> >> >on
>> >> >> >> line are truly wonderful people; but somehow when someone has
the
>> >> exact
>> >> >> >same
>> >> >> >> thing as you do, you speak the same language instead of a
similar
>> >> >> >language.
>> >> >> >> Did you find a wig? They have really gone up in price, it used
>to
>> >be
>> >> >> that
>> >> >> >> folks owned two or three wigs. Oh, will your medical insurance
>pay
>> >> for
>> >> >> >your
>> >> >> >> wig? I had breast cancer and they pay for a prosthesis and 2
>bras
>> >> >> yearly.
>> >> >> >> I wish it was 6 bras and 1 prosthesis every 2 years! Can't
>win...
>> >> >We're
>> >> >> >> happy your with us, although it would be nice under a different
>> >> >> >circumstance
>> >> >> >> and do have a happy Easter. Your friend, Lillian
>> >> >> >> -----Original Message-----
>> >> >> >> From: Ruth Devine <drruth@onlinemac.com>
>> >> >> >> To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com <mol-cancer@lists.meds.com>
>> >> >> >> Date: Sunday, April 12, 1998 1:43 AM
>> >> >> >> Subject: Re: [MOL] adenocarcinoma treatments (urachus)
>> >> >> >>
>> >> >> >>
>> >> >> >> >I have adenocarcinoma of unnkown primary with tumor in lung.
>Have
>> >> >been
>> >> >> >> >getting chemo treatments of taxol and carboplatin three weeks
>> >apart.
>> >> >> >Have
>> >> >> >> >had two treatments and a CT scan to see if any improvement.
The
>> >> tumor
>> >> >> >has
>> >> >> >> >shrunk some so will continue same chemo treatments. Please
keep
>> us
>> >> >> >> >informed.
>> >> >> >> >Ruth
>> >> >> >> >
>> >> >> >> >----------
>> >> >> >> >> If you are aware if any treatments please for this type of
>> cancer
>> >> >> >please
>> >> >> >> >> forward info. Patient has had bladder removed and cancer has
>> >> >> relocated
>> >> >> >> in
>> >> >> >> >> lungs.
>> >> >> >> >>
>> >> >> >> >> Thank You,
>> >> >> >> >> Triciagj@aol.com
>> >> >> >> >>
>> >> >>
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