Marianne,
I guess I would keep after him, if I were you. But don't blame yourself
if you're unable to convince him to go to the doctor. The final
decision rests with him. Maybe you could dig up some info. on melanoma
and show it to him? Do you think that might prompt him to go see the
doctor?
I think any dramatic, unexplained weightloss is reason enough to see the
doctor.
I'm sure that denial comes pretty naturally to recovering alcoholics.
After all, they probably practiced a lot of denial with their
alcoholism. And just because they've stopped drinking doesn't mean
they've necessarily changed their alcoholic thinking, unfortunately.
I'll keep your dad in my prayers.
Love,
Jean
-Jean
W&M Rose wrote:
>
> Anyone,
> My dad had a couple of melanomas removed from his back sometime ago now.
> They had to remove more of the second one, because the margins weren't
> clear enough.
> Now he is losing weight very quickly, already has a bad liver because of
> years of drinking alchohol. I suspect he may have Ca. But cannot talk him
> into going to see a doctor. Any suggestions? I know that we all have to
> make decisions for ourselves, but I'm damned if I'll stand by and watch him
> do nothing without even knowing the options. If he doesn't have Ca, there
> must be a reason for the dramatic weight loss and I would like to know what
> it is, then we could look at possible solutions. Do you think I am
> over-reacting? I won't be offended if you tell me I am.
> Thanks guys
> Marianne
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