Re: [MOL] Dear Susan [05919] Medicine On Line


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Re: [MOL] Dear Susan



Well, since my good buddies, Carla and Marty already told you everything
that I would have said and left me nothing to say (can anyone believe that,
Lillian speechless??).  Of course you are right, there is a few things I can
and will say.  First relax. do your deep breathing exercises.  Thats easier
said than done; but don't stir up those critters inside you; you must relax.
Secondly here is a great big CYBER HUG !  Did you feel it?  Now hold onto
that hug and after you go to the doctors let us know how it went for you,
okay.  We will be waiting and willingly will help you anyway we can.  Your
friend, Lillian
-----Original Message-----
From: Martin Auslander <fitecancer@earthlink.net>
To: mol-cancer@lists.meds.com <mol-cancer@lists.meds.com>
Cc: KatiesGma@aol.com <KatiesGma@aol.com>
Date: Monday, May 11, 1998 10:51 AM
Subject: Re: [MOL] Dear Carla, Marty, & Lillian


>Dear Lady,
>
>I know that you are in incredible anxiety, for the moment....One of the
>essential messages I can relate to you is that your fears and anxieties
>may not be based on fact. But more of fear and anxieties that may never
>happen. So if that is the case, then we must take one step at a time,
>one concern at a time and the fact that you are writing down all these
>concerns is will be very useful and help you understand what the doc
>will say to you. YOu may wish to bring a tape recorder to tape the
>consultation. WE had for every consultation and many do, and play back
>to interpret and understand what the doctor says as sometimes our
>emotions, during the consultation, clouds up the realism of what the
>doctor is saying.
>
>AS for 2nd opinions, we had to go to 7 different opinions, at first in
>order to find two that would concur with the primary doctor. AS it
>turned out none agreed on type of diagnosis or type of treatment.  That
>is not to say you will need to see those many but to answer your
>question, you are the one that is effected mentally and physically, you
>need to be assured and reassured that you understand the diagnosis and
>type of treatment to be taken. If it means seeing 2 opinions or 3 then
>thats what it may take, but for now we need just to relax and take one
>step at a time. And if it makes you feel better and reassured to seek
>out a 2nd opinion even though there is a no matter what, then the money
>is worth the time and effort for you to be confident in your
>understanding.
>
>YOur inner wisdom, at some point kicks in, and will tell you what is
>right and the way to proceed. YOu will learn much, there is no right or
>wrong to this...just a learning process and in time as you proceed on
>your wellness plan and journey....which includes overcoming all the
>emotions as a result of this diagnosis you will find as many do that
>their inner wisdom is a result of this very beginning of education,
>knowledge and the travels you take on this journey will be with great
>HOPE.
>
>As you  know much has been posted here in the last week on the many new
>drugs and treatments for many of the types of cancers....pls take that
>to heart as medicine has come a long way and you will learn that there
>will be much you may need to learn in time about alternative treatments
>for maintenance and longer quality life for many years to come.
>
>Pls continue to come back and hope we, for the moment, have provided you
>with some information that will reduce your stress. It is as essential
>to be as stress free as possible.
>
>Take care and God Bless do keep us posted.
>YOur friend
>marty auslander
>
>
>KatiesGma wrote:
>>
>> Thanks for the generous and compassionate offers of support.  I'll be
leaning
>> quite heavily on you all for a while, but, hopefully as I learn, I'll be
able
>> to help others too.
>>
>> Today is my first trip to an Oncologist.  I have done a lot of research;
I
>> have prepared a long list of questions; and I will have my Mom with me to
be
>> another set of ears.  You could say:  I am ready!!!  Then why am I so
scared?
>> I keep worrying about whether this doctor is really, really good or just
OK.
>> I wonder if he will really, really care about me, or will I just be
another
>> patient.   In other words, I wonder how I will  know whether or not I'm
>> getting the best possible care.
>>
>> Should I seek a second opinion no matter what?  What do I do if one says
one
>> thing and the other says something different?  How do I know who is
right?
>> And what if it takes another several weeks before I can see another
doctor?
>> Will I not be risking more by waiting?
>>
>> I know I'll find the right answers as I move forward.  But, thanks anyway
for
>> letting a control freak vent a little.
>>
>>
>> ---
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