Hi Cindy :)
It seems that I might not have been making myself clear,
because I haven't had any experiences which help me
understand how it is possible for a spouse to be "too
involved."
>I appreciate you insight as to spouses being too involved
>with their loved one's dr.'s visits, etc.
>normal to do the chemo. I'm afraid if they stop, the cancer will start
>growing again and I will lose him -- again selfish of me, isn't it......
No, I don't think that is selfish. That seems like a normal reaction to
me!
>I'm sure you've mentioned it before but, if I may be so nosey (personal
>trait of mine), where do you live?? I'd love to meet your wife, she sounds
>a lot like me but more loving and patient.
We live way up in the Upper Peninsula Michigan. Believe me, my wife
is plenty assertive when she wants to be!
>I know what you mean about sharing time with your spouse and the Net. I've
>started doing some reseach for a special little project and Jim only sees
me
>when he comes into the computer room to see if I still live here!! Guess I
>need to give him some more of my time, huh?
You're right Cindy. I guess I'm the one who's been selfish, I need to spend
more time with my wife and family. Sometimes when she gets frustrated,
and under these circumstances, I guess there is plenty of opportunity for
that, she says "you're not the only one who has cancer...the whole family
has cancer!" (Shes saying that we all are troubled by this cancer.)
Hang in there! (Your friend)
Ross Ylitalo
raylital@mtu.edu
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