Good morning everyone, I hope this finds you all feeling well. Ron, I
think you have every right to demand a private room, after all your
paying for it. Ok, here's my continuing saga that is going to
eventually put me at the top of a very tall building and quite possibly
the evening news.
Ok, Grandma had her Chemo last week -she has stage 3b possibly 4 lung
cancer- they released her from the hospital on her insistance last
friday - a day and one half after Chemo - She was left alone Saturday,
Sunday, and Monday except for the neighbor girl who came over to help
her get her medications. On Monday she was very, very ill and
apparently layed on her bathroom floor for several hours until she had
the strength to move and call someone on the phone. Her daughter -my
husbands estranged mother, his second cousin and the neighbor all came
over. She couldn't keep any food down, not even water. She insisted
that they take her to the hospital, which they did. When she arrived at
the hospital she said she felt much better already. But the worse part
is that she WILL NOT participate in Chemo anymore. Her daughter and
neice who very much support this cancelled her chemo treatments. We
haven't talked to her yet but I spoke with the nurse last night who was
with her all day. Grandma told the nurse she just had a tiny spot on
her lung and that she still had years and years and maybe she would do
chemo again later. The real prognosis is that she has a 4cm mass that
has spread to the lymph system and possibly the liver and bones, the
doctor has stated that she must have chemo now as this may be her only
window of opportunity.
Here's where I need some advise. First of all I'm sure that alot of
this has to do with the fact that she was left alone to her own devices
for those three days and that probably scared the hell out of her, not
to mention how unloved she must have felt without any visitors and
suffering in that kind of sickness. We feel that the best thing for her
would be to be in a care facility - the kind with independant living
quarters, but nurses on staff. Do we push the chemo? What could be her
pronosis without the chemo? I know none of you are doctors, but my
husband and I really value all of your insights, it's hekping us to make
better informed decisions. Should someone try and get her to
understand the seriousness of her condition, or is she just pretending
she doesn't realize the full extent of it. I do not have the type of
personality that allows me to just concede to defeat. I feel strongly
that we should motivate her into wanting to live. I don't know, we
could be wrong, but I just can't stand this defeatest attitude from his
family!!
Thanks for listening all......
Amanda
Amanda
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