Do not know the answers to all your questions, but do know that if they
have staged him to stage iv, then only certain treatments are expected. I
am stage iv non small cell lung cancer, also in my left lung and I am
Nonetheless all of us here share your concerns and our thoughts and our
prayers go out to you.
You came to the right place - a place for you - not just your father - to
receive comfort and support.
At 04:19 PM 11/2/98 EST, you wrote:
>My name is Chris. I was referred to this group mailing by a friend, Kathy K.
>who I see writes quite often. She is an angel who has helped me considerably
>to work through the first stages of my Dad's cancer.
>He was diagnosed on Aug. 24th with non-small cell squamous cell carcinoma in
>the left lung. We later learned (during surgery because none of his doctors
>had throroughly examined his month old x-ray or took a fresh one) that there
>were also new smaller growths in the right lung and in some of the lower
>nodes. While my Dad was still under sedation, the surgeon removed the new
>growths instead of the extensive surgery we all had anticipated to remove
>or all of his left lung. The growth in that lung was the size of a small plum
>and it located toward the bottom of his lung. We were still assured (at the
>time) that because the cancer was the slowest-growing type that he had an
>excellent chance of living 5-6 years with radiations and further surgery. The
>surgeon agreed at the time that radiation is more effective than chemo for
>non-small cell cancer. [Incidentally, we hadn't anticipated any of this
>before 2 weeks before this surgery, he'd had a bronchioscope and it revealed
>no cancer! But immediately after that, he lost his voice! Drs. say it has
>nothing to do with scope -- tumor presses on the nerve?????] My father awoke
>and was alone for TWO HOURS until someone could finally explain why his right
>side hurt instead of his left!!!! Before he had an explanation, his priest
>walked in at the same time we did to do "Annointing of the Sick" (to someone
>75 yrs old - that's LAST RITES.) He must have been in absolute terror for
>more than 2 HOURS thinking that they had mistakenly removed his only good
>lung! Then the following day, his pain meds ran out and he had wait for
>SEVERAL HOURS until they brought him more.
>He then was scheduled for scans: bone, brain, and abdomen (at the wrong
>hospital, of course!) But thank God, they all came out clean.
>Now for some reason, they claim because the cancer spread (which we already
>knew on Sept 30) they are using only chemo and not radiation. My father
>years old and radiation would be easier for him and it is extremely effective
>on his type of cancer - than chemo is. The opposite would be true for small-
>cell cancer! The Dr. admitted to my sister (on the phone) that the large
>tumor will grow and eventually attach itself to the ribs and walls of the
>lung...great! That's because chemo isn't EFFECTIVE!!!!
>To make matters worse, my father will not hear any of this or get a 2nd
>opinion. I gathered together all the prayers that came in to me from the
>various prayer groups I joined. I also printed out special prayers to the
>Saints (novenas) and added a letter of love and support from me. I dedicated
>all this work to my mother, who died at the age of 43 in 1974. He hasn't
>looked at it!
>Well that's it folks! Gives you an idea who am I, what I'm about, and what's
>going on in my life. I am 46 years old. I live in Pa with my grown son,
>raised alone after my divorce when he was 4 yrs old. He is now in college
>25 years old!) and living off the "fat of my land" -- i.e. I AM supporting
>him! I'm sure you can sense how angry and outraged I am, but believe it or
>not, I haven't lost my faith or my sense of humor. It's just that my father
>is the one who always taught me, "God helps those who help themselves."
>how can I ask God for miracles when my father won't even get a 2nd opinion?
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