Re: [MOL] my father-in-law [02849] Medicine On Line


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Re: [MOL] my father-in-law



I am so sorry.  May he rest in peace.
Love,
Mary
> 
> well....four months to the day he was diagnosed we lost him...to pancreatic
> cancer which spread to his liver. three months of experimental chemo did
> nothing..upon being checked via cat scan 3 weeks the tumors had GROWN....he
> was diagnosed in stage 4....we lost him 8/20/98 @ 10:40 pm, all five kids were
> there with spouses/significant others...i've never watched anyone die before,
> someone we all loved so much who worked so damn hard his whole life was
> reduced to a groaning, moaning, frail little thing...a man who once was so BIG
> in your eyes you see reduced to a mess of wires, tubes and a morphine button
> which i had the pleasure (sarcastic) of beeping for him every five minutes
> until he died....GOD! I just want to scream sooo loud.....i don't know who's
> reading this but thanks for listening....he was admitted on 8/19/98 at 10:00
> am and lingered until the next night...what a torturous 36 hours that was...We
> don't miss the body that was lying in that bed we miss the dad full of advice,
> the man who walked his oldest daughter down the aisle a few years ago beaming
> with pride, who cried a tear of joy when he held his baby grand-daughter  for
> the first time last April...God it's just so unfair! I hate this!  ...you
> pretend to go back to your normal routine....but things will never be the
> same...EVER! And my poor mom-in-law who incidentally is my best friend.....she
> said being with him these last few months and slowly watching him die was like
> someone trying to pull something away from and no matter how hard you hold on
> you know they will eventually get it and you will never have it again....they
> had know eachother for 40 years...He was 54 when he died last week....it sucks
> so bad! my husband has 2 sister amd two brothers plus they all have
> husbands/wives or girl/boyfriends so i mean she'll never be alone...she is the
> coolest lady, too. is this  a nightmare...can i wake up now? what we've gone
> through is a humbling experience to say the least.....all things seem so
> inconsiquential now....life and love matter not any material crap...it's
> meaningless....because if you have no one to share it with you might as well
> forget happiness.......his mom got so upset the other day because she wants to
> leave the house and sell it, she has to wait for insurance money...the whole
> nine yards of crap...uggghh!!!!!    May He Rest In Peace and Remember You'll
> Always Be In Our Hearts.......Thanks for listening whoever has read
> this.......I really needed to get that out........Take Care Of Yourself and
> Those You Love...We Only Have One Life...Make The Most Of It  :)
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