lehnerj1@ix.netcom.com wrote:
>
> I just want to take a moment and recognize the most important medicine
> available to we who are cancer survivors...that is the unqualified love
> and support of our care givers. Not only do they provide instant
> support, encouragement and motivation, they also carry the weight of
> responsibility for the day to day life chores of the survivor. In my
> case that has involved the care of three little children, their
> adjustment to a disfiguring surgery on their Dad, trying to keep a clean
> house (orderly went out the window with the birth of twins!), being sure
> the bills are paid, that I eat and take my meds on time...in brief,
> carrying the weight of two all with a smile and positive outlook!
>
> I'm referring here to my wife and partner of twelve years, who, I'm sure,
> never dreamed she would be facing this kind of life! Without her love
> and support during the past eight months, I would not be here ...
> greatful for another day at work and seeing my children grow and laugh.
> Even today, she guides my steps, brightens my outlook, and is prepared to
> help me get up when depression gets me down.
>
> To my Ruth and all like her (those like Marty and Jo) who are prepared
> and willing to see the struggle through to the end, who give meaning and
> purpose to each morning sun rise, I give my thanks and gratitude.
> Without your love this world would surely be a dreary place. THANKS.
>
> God Bless ALL,
> John
Dear JOhn,
Thank you very much for your kind words. I have learned that we, as
caregivers, have a choice. There are those, and I have heard of many
cases, that leave their loved one when they find out that she/he has a
major disease, cancer. I can't explain why or how, but that occurs.
Then there are those, like many here, and Jo and your wife, that seem to
dig way down deep in their soul each day, each moment to provide care
not because its an obligation, but because it is the Godly thing to do
and because the signature of love is giving, compassion, understanding,
helping, providing, encouraging, motivation that you and the many others
that have this disease will be well so that someday you and the others
will enjoy life as we, caregivers wish and pray that you do. We suffer
along with you, we feel our anxieties, we feel the need to help and not
be helpless. So, John thank you for your kind and loving words about
your wife and us, caregivers. WE need to be loved as well because we
walk with you, feel with you, empathize with your frustrations and
suffering, but with the love you give your wife and the love I receive
from my wife, you and I know in time, we will be whole again to be happy
as we were when we were healthy. But John, you know what? YOur mind,
your heart, your soul is very healthy. God Bless You
YOur friend
Marty
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